Son does not listen after I have corrected him. throws temper tantrum all the t!


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Son does not listen after I have corrected him. throws temper tantrum all the time. Dont know if he has adhd


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Not listening is part of being a six year old, lol. Hang in there, lol.
As for ADD.. a lot of people think add is a behavioural problem when in fact it is not at all. That can be a symptom but definatley not something they use inclusivley to diagnose. I have one of both... one with and one without ADHD. My one with ADHD was easier at 6 then my one without. Kids with ADHD can't hold their focus. They are very very easy to distract. They really have to be in a controlled environment as they are impulsive and they seriously at 6 have a very hard time understanding cause and effect. For me personally I have one son with and a nephew with it and temper tantrums were never part of the picture. Sulking and being upset almost like they didn't understand why they were in trouble and were trying to piece it together. But temper tantrums I did not see.
Recently researchers are connecting depletion in Omega 3 (fish fats) during pregnancy to ADHD which is why diagnosis is on the rise today. People don't eat as much fish as they used to because you eat fast food or packaged food. You can try giving your son Omega 3 capsules three times a day but the pills are rather large and hard to get down.
If he does have ADD he will really struggle with school. That is usually where this is caught because they have to stay still and focus and they can't do that. They will also have social inabilities because their brain works differently so they play differently. About the only sure fire way to tell if this is what he has is to take him to your doctor. You will hear tons of people say 'oh sure -to drug him up-most kids don't have ADD and are on drugs' Completely 100% not true. A child without ADD can not be on meds. After one dose that parent would say 'hell no-he's worse!!' Most meds are basically speed. If you give a normal child meds they will bounce off the walls... a child with ADD will mellow immediatley after the first dose.

Trust me... the most ignorant statement a person can make about ADD is that most cases are misdiagnosed and the parents are just lazy parents. I don't care how out of control your kid is - NO parent in their right mind would continue meds if their kid didn't have ADD because it is like giving them Mountain Dew to drink all day!!
We finally broke down with our son and took him to the doc... after he evaluated my son he diagnosed him and gave us three ritalin at its weakest dose (one pill ever four hours) and said try this for one day, if he winds up he doesn't have it - if he calms down he does. I took my son to the grocery store as a test because he was uncontrollable there usually and gave him the first pill. Within 15 min he was standing next to me very quietly and fliping through a blues clues book page by page. I had tears literally streaming down my face. It was like he was looking at it with new eyes and taking it all in for the first time.
If your son does have ADD look at it as a blessing. Most people grow out of it in puberty, number one. Number two... these kids access a part of the brain we dont so they tend to be highly intelligent. My son is 9 now and tests in to a 6th grade level on all subjects. He is coming around socially and is doing great.
The key thing is that only you know your son... you never medicate for behaviour. You medicate just enough that they can sit still and focus on school work... or now we also need it for sports. A perk to meds is that they begin to understand cause and effect so the behaviour is easier to manage.
Trust me though... if he doesnt have it.. you wont be wanting to medicate, lol. If he doesn't have it - it would be cheaper to give him a six pack of soda pop in the morning, lol, because it will do the same thing as giving him meds.
I would just take him in to the doctor... if he hasnt had his yearly check up this would be a perfect forum to bring this up to your doc.
Just be very patient with your son. If he does have ADHD he is a very frustrated lil boy. It was described to me one time as this... Stop what your doing right now and listen around you. Do you hear traffic, dogs barking, even something tiny like the hiss of water running through your pipes outside to the dog licking his paws, the fan running... listen to every little noise. Now... you and I can filter that stuff out the grand majority of the time and zone in and focus on one thing. An ADD child hears every little tiny thing and can't make any one thing shut up in his head.
My example I like to use is... have you ever tried to have a conversation while all your kids stood at your feet asking you different questions all at once. That is what these kids' lives are like every second of every day.
I really hope this helped you... Hang in there. Take him to the doc and get a for sure on it, if he doesn't have it then at least you know and can explore other avenues of behaviour control.
Good Luck!!




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