What do you say to someone who is obviously on the edge?!

What do you say to someone who is obviously on the edge?

I am on the phone with someone who will not say that he is not going to hurt himself. What can I possibly do? He is 7 hours away. Please answer quickly

3 weeks ago
Every time I try to tell him about the good things in his life he cries harder. What else???

3 weeks ago
Someone he loves very much (a step child) will be moving very far away and he thinks he will never see her again. He says what do i have to live for if I do not have her. Everything I do is for her and because of her.

3 weeks ago
he stopped crying. I told him to turn on the tv. I dont know why, but i did, now hes watching tv... but still not talking

NO ONE CAN MAKE ANOTHER PERSON NOT KILL THEIR SELF. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE IF HE MAKES THAT CHOICE.

You can be kind and listen well. You can tell him this from me. As someone who has been suicidal most of their life, tried it many times and many times nearly died; he has no idea what the eternal consequences will be. I talked to a guy who blew half his head of, left him blind. He was dead in route to the hospital numerous times, died numerous times in the months of healing from his head being half blown away and I mean, literally he blew off about half his own head. The one thing he told me and others int he psycho ward was this. You are held accountable; it's horrible what you go through and I chose to come back even knowing how my body was, so I could have a change to not go where I went when I died, when I die naturally the next time. He died naturally about ten years later. I've read a lot of real life stories as well, no one who attempts suicide and has a life review ever does so again, so that says a lot. Also, I died one of the time, didn't go far, but was stopped by an angle who said; make a choice now, but if you choose death you will never inherit celestrial glory; you will never live in the presence of God and Jesus Christ; you wil have a lesser glory then where they are. We are all garunteed eternal life; but we don't realize we are not garunteed it with God or Jesus, what we do has a lot to do with where we live eternally, in what degree of Glory. Unless you are insane and don't know what you are doing, you are held responsibile to varying degrees. So only God and Jesus know and judge us, but I don't want to give up eternity with God and Jesus for a lesser degree, just to get out of my pain through sucide.

Tell him to read the book RETURN FROM TOMORROW, he'll be enlightened, it's a true story.

ALSO, he claimes to love his step-daughter. Then just think of what his suicide would do to her and kids always find out. A child of a parent who commits suicides is 50 times more likely then other children to later attempt suicide themselves. Children believe a parent did it because of them, even if the parents says in a letter they love the child and it's not their fault.

I know he's in pain, but if he loves her, then he needs to stop thinking about himself, his pain, and realize that his suicide would forever devistate her and affect her ability to have an emotionally healthy life. I've talked to many adults whose had a parent commit suicide adn they all had emotional problems becuase of it, they all believed they could have some how stopped it, even though when they tell how it happened it's clear they in no way, regardless of age could have stopped it.

If you believe that he will kill himself; then you need to get on another phone line if you have it, such as a cell phone or another house phone ona different line and call information and ask them to connect you to 911 in his area. Tell them you are on the phone to a guy in that town and state, who is suicidal and you need to get the 911 in his city to send a crisis couselor to him. If you don't want to send 911; then ask them for the County Mental Health Center in his area; then call them and ask to speak to the on call worker; ask the on call worker to go to his house.

The fact he won't promise not to huurt himself and it's been hours, says he wants someone to talk to, or he'd have offed himself. I'm talking from personal experience, I never involved others in my attempts, never called and asked for help becuase I didn't want to be stopped. I also think it's cruel to tell a friend you are going to kill yourself; it's not kind.

Do you know any of his close friends, who live where he lives? You could call one of htem and ask them to go to his house, tell them why so they can make the choice to go or not go for theirself.

Tell him, I've lived a horrible life, tried suicide many times, nearly died and it didn't solve anything and only caused more pain in my life! It isn't the answer!

It's horrible he may never see the girl agian if he loves her as a dad. It's like a death if that happens and he'll have to grieve her loss, reallly grieve, but suicide will only cause that child pain and the mother I assure you will tell. If she doesn't tell the child, the child one day will find out and even if she's an adult, it will devisate her.