Scared of guys, help?!


Question:

Scared of guys, help?

Whenever guys look at me and its pretty often, i get extremley self conscious. Most girls would die for the attention i get but i could die from it. I am scared to be touched or looked at by guys. I am not shy or insecure around men in general, I am just terrified of men. Please help
i guess it chages things a little, if i tell you i went through a traumatic event when i was little beaucase of a male teacher

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3 weeks ago
i am almost 18 by the way

3 weeks ago
also i am straight, so dont say i fear guys because i am a homosexual.


Answers:

there are quite a few people who have experienced the same things that you have, but here's what I have to say. You CANNOT generalize like that.. You can't say that all men are bad or be afraid of all men because of what ONE or more men may have done to you. There are many men in the world, and there are some men who are abusive, but not all men are like that. That's the source of most of the prejudice in the world. I know people who hate black people, they are scared of black people. When you ask them why - and if you listen you will find that one black person many years ago did something to them. But it's just not fair. It isn't even fair to be afraid. You have to allow people to prove themselves good or bad, scary or not. You can't generalize just because of one thing. If you can't work through this based on what I just told you, then please go and get professional help to work through this issue, because you'll need more help than what I or the others here can help you with. Many people here have been abused and understand abuse. But not everyone is like that. I know women who have been raped, and they have an understandable fear of men. But not every man is a rapist. Don't you see that? It's the one particular rapist. Many men go to their jobs and raise their families and are good men. All men shouldn't be punished because of the actions of one bad teacher.
Also, did you report that teacher? You should. That teacher needs disciplinary action. Also don't wait ten years, do it now.
also in your questions please tell people how old you are, we have no idea who we are talking to. You might be 6 years old for all I know. I have no idea.




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