Feeling rejected -- is it him or his bipolar??!
Question:
Feeling rejected -- is it him or his bipolar??
I met this guy over the internet on myspace. We got along so well. Loads of e-mails and phone calls. He is bipolar and is on meds (lithium, etc.). At first I felt weird about that but I decided not to judge. He came to visit me for a week in my city. It was amazing. Very romantic. He gushed the entire week about me... finding me... wanting to be with me. I felt the same. Then he went home has pretty much ignored me ever since. I sent him an e-mail saying I wanted to talk to him but he just wrote back that he was “sorry but he’s not feeling very well”. Nothing else. I know he’s been online because he keeps updating his profile. I sent him another e-mail asking very nicely if he was avoiding me – he read it but no response. I am heartbroken. I don’t understand much about severe bipolar – but I’m trying not to feel like it was me. Like he’s rejecting me. Any advice from any bipolar experienced out there? I can’t sleep, eat... it just does not make any sense to me. Thanks.
Answers:
Sounds like he was having a manic episode while he was visiting and then crashed--fell into a "blue mood". He may be embarassed by that and feel like avoiding you because of it.
Of course it's always possible that he just found somebody else.