I have to make a huge decision, and I need help?!


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I have to make a huge decision, and I need help?

I'm a 20 year old guy , and I live in Holland. I've been so depressed.I used to live on the island of Curacao . I had a "life" there , a car , was going to college. My biggest dream, was to finish my degree in IT , then go to Cuba or Puerto Rico , to study and pursue a carreer in music. Things weren't going so well in college, i lacked motivation so I decided to come here and live on my own , and finish college here in Holland. Been a year now, and I'm so depressed. I got no life here, I never go out, I don't got any friends. I was thinking of going back to my island and get college over with , so I can work on my dream of hopefully become a prof. musician. My dad don't like that idea so much, cuz he sais i'm in Europe now, and I got a once in a lifetime opportunity to explore the world outside Curacao. But the thing is, I don't feel comfortable here in Holland. Of course I wanna explore the world, that's what life's all about.But I'm young right? I don't know what to do, please help.


Answers:

The problem is reality. We all want what feels great at the moment, but what happens as we get older, is we realize that our previous decisions made all the difference. First off, you are never TOO old to listen to your father. There is a reason we are taught to respect our parents. If they have been good parents, then ALWAYS respect them. Listening, is the best form of this. However this doesn't mean you always have to agree as adults. What I think he is REALLY trying to stress to you, is as you get older, you need security in life. You miss your friends and life but have a better chance NOW of securing a (most likely)better education that can ensure that LATER (and not ALOT later as time REALLY flies) you can afford to have fun with your friends and be a musician, etc. You do have the chance of a lifetime. You may never get the chance again. Your friends will always be there, and fun doesn't end just because you are a few years older, trust me...it only gets better when you have some cash of your own to help. Don't add to your depression by trying to not fit in because you don't want to be there. Just TRY for a while longer. Take this time to REALLY study. Graduate. You will make friends eventually. If not so what, later you go back to your old friends, with a degree and prospects in life many of them won't have. Practice your music, no one can take that away. Hope this helps a little. Good luck!




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