Will I have to live the rest of my life like this?!

Will I have to live the rest of my life like this?

I am one of those types of people who has few if any friends, never had a girlfriend and never had sex. I'm in my early 30's, so I'm pretty much a loser by society's definition of a loser. I didn't choose the fear of social situations. I think that my uneasiness shows and people just don't want to get to know me so then I feel more depressed and a vicious cycle is created. I am an extremely lonely person and I feel as if everyone is better than I am. Maybe I feel that way because I really am a loser. I probably have about 50 years left on this earth. When I die and go to heaven, will all of these bad feelings I have go away and will I finally be able to connect with people there? I feel like nothing is ever going to change on this side of the grave.

You are never to old to change your behavior. You simple need to begin with the first step. I suggest you stop calling yourself names, you are only a loser if you choose to be. You are only uneasy in social situations if you allow your self to feel that way.
Start tomorrow with a new attitude. Set a goal, today is will thing good things about myself, only good things. Tomorrow I will go out in public and make appropriate eye contact with people. The next day smile at ten people, the next say Hi to ten. The next, say great weather or nice shirt, or any other two word phrase to a stranger. The next day go where you know an acquittance will be and start up a conversation, just three of four exchanges. Each day set a high level goal and keep up the good thoughts. At the end of the month, your attitude will be better and confidence will build.

Remember people are drawn to positive and friendly people.