How can I stop being so bitter and judgemental when it comes to women?!


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How can I stop being so bitter and judgemental when it comes to women?

I've tried to get back into dating, but I find that I'm far so bitter or judgemental about the whole thing that I've given up before I've actually started. Normally it's because either subconsciously I seem to find myself attracted to horrible people or I get to know someone that seems nice and I start trying to find things that are wrong with them etc.
Occasionally if I can't find anything wrong with them I start on myself as the excuse. What do you think is wrong with me and how can I 'cure' or fix myself? The only other example of anyone acting like this that I've met was someone suffering from OCD who similarly found all sorts of excuses to stay the way they were.


Answers:

First of all, I don't suggest that you consider dating another until you get past your bitterness. There is nothing more unattractive than a man or a woman who is bitter. The bottom line is that somewhere along the line, you were hurt in a relationship and you have some emotional baggage left over. What you have to do is work with a qualified psychologist so that you can work through your issues before dating another. And remember this above all else. The woman that you are seeing and/or dating is not your enemy. It was another that hurt you. I learned this with my girlfriend of three-and-a-half years. And please learn how to be your own best friend. My happiness is not dependent on what my g/f says or does. My happiness comes from inside and my g/f and I have a mindset of what we can do to make each other happy today and that removes bitterness from our hearts. Best of luck.




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