My friend cuts herself and it keeps getting worse and it really scares me?!


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My friend cuts herself and it keeps getting worse and it really scares me?

my bff started to cut herself after people started spreading rumors and stuff about her i had to hold her hand one day in school as we sat there crying she has a counselor now and she basically stopped but wen she gets rly rly mad she does it way worse than before and when she does it she shakes and i cry becasue i hate that she does it to herself what are some ways for her to let out her anger on herself and what should i do about it ?


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She mostly needs support of a good nonjudgmental friend. She does this as a form of self punishment for the things she feels she does wrong. Was she spanked as a child? This can be a result from that. I used to cut myself too and it feels like the only release from internal pain. Tell her how much you care about her and how scared it makes you. Tell her she doesn't need to do it because she deserves a lot better. Help her to work out what is hurting her and point out how people are mean especially the one that are powerless and want to bring down someone more powerful then them as a false sense of power. In other words they are jealous and of her. Point out her good qualities and be there for her but never make her feel judged. Always keep what she says a secret so she can have someone to talk openly to that way she can say and begin to heal from the past. I don't think she has much support at home that she really needs, and she could have been physically abused when she was younger this includes spankings.

Don't put her in a pysc ward she will only feel betrayed and like something is wrong with her which will make the cutting worse thats what happened to me, plus she will probably never trust you again. She will only heal if she can talk to someone about it the journal is a great idea also writing letters to people that hurt her where she tells them exactly how she feels works wonders, she doesn't even have to give it to them just writing it works.




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