I cant stop self harming. can any one help??!

I cant stop self harming. can any one help??

I really need help to stop self harm. i stopped for a while but recently i started again because my boyfriend tried to rape me 3 times and a couple of months ago he comitted suicide by shooting himself. Now its getting worse than ever. im started to carve words in my arms which i never used to do. people like family and some friends assume im ok and sometimes i just want to shout im not ok. i dont know where to turn. is there anyone out there who has stopped self harming after a long time if so please tell me how you did. i know i need to stop soon because if i dont things could get worse and i could die. i've already tried to kill myself before and it really hurt some of my friends and I cant do that to them again.

If there is anyone who has been through self harm, please help me. thanks x x

Cutting is actually not an uncommon phenomon, though it can become dangerous.

Many people cut for two reasons 1. it is easier to deal or focus on emotional pain than physical pain. 2. when someone cuts, it actually releases a chemical in the brain called endorphines which are a "feel good" hormone.

First of all I believe you should tell your parents and seek therapy. A lot of time with cutters, it is very helpful just to have someone to talk to about ANYTHING.

If you feel that you cannot do so, here are some other things which will help.
1. when you feel the urge to cut, press ice on the area where you usually cut.
2. Get some "fake blood" at a store and place it where you cut.
3. draw on yourself with red pen when you cut.
4. Call you best friend when you feel like cutting
5. go get excersise (excersise releases endorphines as well) 6. The write above stated popping a rubberband on the wrist is helpful, this is true but I have seen Clients who have used this technique and actually harmed themself brusing and bleeding from the force of the rubberband so be careful.

Best of luck to you Sweetheart.