I am a compulsive liar and I NEED to stop.?!

I am a compulsive liar and I NEED to stop.?

I lie about everything, big and small, and I'm not sure why. It makes things more exciting I guess. Recently I've begun to lie so often that I'm starting to believe my own lies like an alternate reality or some other person with whom I am forced to relate. I even lie to the people I care about the most. I know I need to stop. I've lost so many friends in the past from this and I realize how stupid and pointless the lies are, because I know these people would like me for who I am and NOT lying about everything. I don't know what to do. I'm starting college this fall and I need to start fresh with my new acquaintances and surroundings, but I don't know where to begin. Does anyone know of a way to get over compulsive lying or have some kind of motivation to help me??? I just feel desperate; I think this feeling came when I realized lies came to me easier than telling the truth.

you lie for two reasons: to seem more interesting by embelishing stories and to avoid confrontation.
Think about it the next time you lie. Did it fall into those categories or was it something else? You need to pay attention to when you lie, whom you lie to the most and the kinds of lies you tell certain people. You need to "study" your lying pattern to figure out what's at the root of it. I'ts usually what I said above, to seem more interesting and avoid confrontation. Both of these stem from lack of self esteem. Like you think the truth isn't good enough or that if you tell the truth, you'll hurt someone's feelings, etc. As noble as that seems, look at wehre it's gotten you. So you need to understand that people want you and your stories at face value...you don't need to lie to get attetion. This won't happen overnight, but once you really start to think about when, why and to whom you lie, maybe you'll see a pattern and understand why you do it. Even small lies hurt people and minimize your credibility. Nothing and no one is worth your credibility.
It might be a slow process, but it is very possible that you can stop this once and for all. Just be mindful of when you lie. Learn WHY YOU LIE, big ad small, and that's half the battle right there. Then just make goals for yourself, like I will never lie to my family. Once you've gotten used to that, spread it to include others. And actually, start by not telling big lies, b/c those are the ones that can cause a lot of damage. Then start cutting out all those little everyday lies. Good luck