Coming off of crack and stop using?!

Coming off of crack and stop using?

My good friend's relative has stopped using crack or at least trying and struggling badly. What are some things they both can do to assist in this process and keep clean. Tensions and anxiety levels are running very high, along with dramatic moods, outbursts of anger, etc. There are three small children within this family. Please help. They are not sure how to handle all this. Very good family.

4 weeks ago
The woman has been clean only for a few weeks, she is 30 years old, apparently getting the drug from her boyfriend who lived with her & both lived in the same household as her parents. They have been taking money and credit cards from family members to support their habit. She just obtained a protective order on the boyfriend because of his violence/abuse/threats to kill her & family; family members just had him evicted for non-payment of rent. He now is in jail because of violating the protective order 3x in one week! But will be getting out in 30 days. She is scared that he or his affiliates will come after her & the 3 children! He has had a tremendous amout of control!!! over her, always kept her away from all resources & depending on him. He hasn't worked for nearly a year, they have moved every 3-6 mos for past 10 years!! (evicted from every place). She is from very prominent & caring family! Her family will provide support & all that she needs but not sure how to keep him away!

4 weeks ago
A family member she lives with is helping her with the three children: ages 11 mos, 5 yrs, 8 yrs., the 8 yr old is having night mares, baby won't sleep (wakes up lots at night) and baby doesn't want to even go to mother. Does baby feel tension and anxiety within mother? Mother and children are now in counseling (1x week) and mother is filing for custody to keep boyfriend from just taking children and doesn't want boyfriend to even have visitation rights because she knows what he is and is afraid for children but doesn't know how to keep him from seeing them once he is out of jail.

You must know my "sister". One of the way that I handle her (we live in the same house with our parents, sorry to say), is to keep everything under lock and key. This would prevent any temptations from occurring. Don't allow this person to drive by themselves for any reason what-so-ever, demand that a responsible adult go with them. Insist that an honest family member manage their money. When this person does go out, demand that they tell you where they are going and who they will be with, or this person simply just will not be allowed to go anywhere. Demand on a curfew. Demand to know who their friends are. Demand to know their work schedule. Demand that they carry a cell phone with them at all times and that the family has the number and demand that you see who they have been calling on their cell phone.

Hard *ss? Yes, but after almost getting arrested for uttering due to the fact that your "sister" stole your check book and wrote about $3,000.00 worth of bad checks in your name, also getting jumped by your parents because your "sister" stole their car and she gave it to her crack dealer for a few puffs, you will learn real quick that you have to be a very hard *ss, otherwise the crack head will bleed you dry to support their habit. Don't let anyone sell you that a load of bull saying "Rehab will work" because the only way rehab will do any good is if the user actually wants help to quit using.

Good luck!!! Because they are going to need it.

Addition Details:

I have read your addition details and I'm truly sorry. If she is stealing as much as you say she is, the only thing that her family can do is exactly what I stated. That is the ONLY way she will ever get off of that crap. Caving into her DOES NOT work. My mother caved into my "sister" on the night before their car came up missing. The time when she wrote all those bad checks in my name, I had no lock installed on my bedroom door. I have a lock on my door now. I keep my bedroom door locked and I'm the only one with the key. I also keep my car door locked at all times. I keep absolutely nothing lying around to tempt her. When I receive offers for credit cards, I take the credit card application outside, and I burn the application. Also, I took inventory of all my processions. I suggest that they do the same.

As far as the peice of sh*t boyfriend is concerned buy a house alarm and suggest that the family have a restraining order place on him.