Trying to control moods?!

Trying to control moods?

I am prone to quick changes in mood and at times irritability (lack of patience). However, most of the time I am in a very good mood and would describe myself as a happy person with a lot in life to be thankful for. I really don't understand why suddenly out of the blue I can get a bad (sad feel like crying) mood but usually snap out of it within a day or less. Can anyone please help me with this?

I can be impatient. I like getting things done, and I'm not going to like anything that gets in the way. But where it goes from there depends on what else is going on with me. If I'm not trying to do too much, I can see the reason for any delay and accept it. If not, it's often because I'm not over being angry about something earlier that didn't go well. It's easy to make customer service people scapegoats for whom you're really angry with.

There are at least two schools of thoughts on how to be happy. One is to pretend you're happy, believing that anger, sadness, and fear are bad things that you should refuse to feel. I've never liked that. I want to let those challenging emotions work themselves through. Those who do that can find that fear can become prudence, anger can become determination, and sadness can become a basis for empathy. They can become healthy emotions when people learn to see them realistically.

That's hard to do on one's own. Our culture has all kinds of mixed messages and unhealthy messages about emotions, including the one that says you should be in charge of your emotions, not the other way around. If you really want healthy emotions, I think letting a psychologist help you is essential.