How do I help a friend who is harming themselves??!
Question:
How do I help a friend who is harming themselves??
How can I help my friend?? she's goin through a rough time in her life, where her dad is sick, she and her mom arent gettin
along and recently..weve both been in a fight with our other friend where we r both trying to fix things with her.
I dont know what to tell her. I never thought she would ever do somthing like this..taking a lighter and burnt her hand with it..all she is saying to me is that it doesnt hurt anybody it doesnt hurt her..its just a reminder to her...she tells me that she wont do it again, im not sure whether to believe that or not.. cuz she also said that she felt better after she did that.. and that is scary as Hell..cuz i wanna help he soo bad but i just feel so helpless.
PLEASE.. what can I do or say..or am I over reacting since this is only the first time? but i just realy want to help and i figured that she is doing this for attention cuz she wouldnt of told me that her burn was by her..she would of said it was accident..so i know she wants me 2 help her.
Answers:
The reason for her doing it could be for attention...but whatever the reasons shes doing it she needs help. You cannot help her to the degree she needs so you really need to pass this on to an adult who will be able to set the wheels in motion for your friend to get help.
Maybe your parents would be able to help, or a trusted teacher, youth worker, church official, someone in authority.
You can help your friend by being there for her and supporting her and you are not over reacting...your friend is vulnerable and needs professional help.