Filed a complaint and prayer for possibly bi-polar wife threatening suicide?!

Filed a complaint and prayer for possibly bi-polar wife threatening suicide?

Last week, I had to walk out of my job, because over the weekend and monday she was talking about the cops calling me at work finding her body, or her body will be in the morgue. The last straw was when she instant messaged me at work saying that she was going to down a lot of pills and alcohol. I walked out of the job after my store manager told me not to. I went home, found my wife laughing at me saying oh my life isn't worth losing your job over. I winded up talking to the mental place that she was coordinating to set up appointments. My wife was complaining about people F****** her over. So I tried one last time after countless time to have her go in voluntarily for couple days to get her on meds and etc. But she refused So I had to sign a complaint and prayer authorizing the police to take her in to a mental hospital since I had proof she had a specific plan in mind. So that day the police came, my wife wanted her mother to go with her so she went to get her mother, but her mothe

4 weeks ago
r and she didn't go in voluntarily so the mental place gave the police her mother's contact information so the police picked her up in cuffs. right now her mother and she is very angry at me. Since then her grandmother passed on so she is out for few days for the funeral. I feel terrible about the whole circumsentences but I felt that I made the right decision because I'd rather stop her from attempting anything. But I wasn't welcome to the funeral since her father, and family are angry at me over what happened. I am hoping that with mediciations and counseling that will help my wife realize what I did for her was out of love and wanting her to get help. Worst part is that she insists that I fucked her over. All I have done for her is make most of the phone calls and doing most of the work. Being supportative and encouraging her to get help. I am hoping with time things will heal. I don't know if she has been diagnosed with anything but I';m suspecting bipolar and BPD. Right now my fam

4 weeks ago
ily is supporting me by helping out with the four girls we have I am thankfull for all of the help I have got. When my wife was being cuffed by the cops she instant messaged me saying you are done for good. Despite her talking about divorce on and off and talking about working out our marriage. Myself I would love to see us work things out. But same time she has awfully a lot of prove to me because she did so many things that I have already forgiven her for but I cannot forget. I am wondering if anybody else has worked out their relationships going through similar situation.

right now I am taking things day by day.

Hi:

Being Bipolar myself, as I was reading your post, I could completely understand what you are going thru and I am so sorry for that. But NEVER EVER doubt that you may have done the wrong thing. You did what you had to do to save your wife, marriage, yourself and your children. Please pat yourself on the back because you did one of the hardest jobs a spouse can do.

I can at the same time understand your wife, that are all typical behaviors of someone with Bipolar and the are manic. She is not really in controll of her emotions and actions right now. Ohh please don't get me wrong, she still needs to be accountable or at least acknowledge what happened. I can see some of myself when I am manic in your posting and frankly, that scared the heck out of me.

If my ex husband had done what you did for your wife, my plan or suicidal thoughts and verbalizations to him, if he acted upon those as you did, I can guarantee that my attempts would never had become real serious attempts.

Oh, I almost forgot this important part...Know in your heart that you did NOT F*** her over at all. That is a manipulation technique and some people with Bipolar are very very good at it. She is good. She hit you hard with that. But please DO NOT believe it. Not at all.

I am sorry for the loss of your wife's grandma. Sometimes it all just happens at once. The way her family is treating you know, frankly do you care what they think? You did the right thing, everything and if they can't see that you are only trying to save their daughter's life, then they have their own issues they need to deal with. Don't take responsibility for their ignorance.

Taking this day by day is the only healthy way to go thru this (or anything else really). One step at a time, one day at a time. Deal with issues as they come up, but don't get bogged down with issues that are relly someone else's responsibility. You have enough that you are worrying about.

I know this didn't answer you question, but I had to say these things as I can relate so very much to both sides.

If I can do anything to help you, my contact information is in my profile. Please feel free to use it any time you choose.

I will hold you and your family in my prayers.

Be safe and be well.