Do you ever feel suicidal, because nothing you do changes anything for the bette!

Do you ever feel suicidal, because nothing you do changes anything for the better?

With overwhelming debt, a wife who does'nt seem to care about me, and a family who have taken sides and alienated themselves from me, I am really wondering what is the point of me going on. I don't feel those severest sucicidal feelings that people do just before they do it...at the moment I am trying to keep it together, I have a debt call with Payplan today and am seeing my doctor tomorrow, who I hope will refer me for counselling. I have'nt given up yet, but the pressures on me (some self inflicted, I admit) are just too much now. Online friends who I have known for years rarely write now, always saying they are too busy, so I could confide with a close friend, but he knows my wife and I don't want this back to her. Maybe she is too caught up in herself to know how I am feeling, but would anyone really miss me? Please don't freak out, I am not at that stage yet, but any constructive answers before I see my gp and sort the debt out today would be appreciated. Thanks so much. Jono xx

4 weeks ago
Some of these answers really touched me...I believe going to my gp is one thing but it's likely they will offer prozac which I don't think will solve things. What I hope is that the gp will refer me for some effective counselling so that I can get these feelings out. If you've seen some of my other questions maybe you will understand how I've got to this pointg. I am not a serial moaner, I truly like to be strong and sort things out, but right now, I feel completely overwhelmed. I hoped tomorrow would be a better day, but that was two weeks ago and I just feel worse. Contacting Answers, going to my gp and speaking with payplan seem to be the right things to do, now. My wife...I just feel is in her own world..if I tell her how I feel she will say, well what about how I feel? She has a habit of turing questions around. I am not making her out to be a b*tch, she is'nt - but I sometimes feel the £££ is more important than me, I could be way off..but I don't think so. Thx for your answers!

4 weeks ago
Some of you suggested I talk with my wife. But she feels I hold her back from stuff she wants to do, she seems less concerned with what I want to do...and so...what's the point in talking with her? I feel she may resent me for bringing more problems on her, and feel 'as a man' I should be able to deal with them myself. Maybe she's right, but marriage is a partnership right? I have no wish to bring problems on her, that are my own, I just need help with that. What I need from her is suppport...I brought this up two weeks ago and she turned her phone off and left me in town waiting to pick her up, but she'd already gone home! (the issue was to do with my mom, and they don't get on) I just feel overwhelmed and that's why I posted. She used that threat that if I pulled out of her bridal business, it would get bad for us (more fights about money). I would love her just to say to me 'I wanna help you, support you, and I will take better care of you as your wife'. Chances are slim and none!

Payplan will help you with your debts, i have been with them for nearly a year now and it has made such a difference! I'm sure your wife cares more than you think, have you tried talking to her about how you feel? I think your GP will be able to help you with the depression you are feeling at the moment. Someone in my area committed suicidie because of debt and a split from him wife, he had so many people who cared about him and he didn't realise it. I think it is important to speak to your loved ones and tell them how you are feeling, i'm sure they will reassure you that they love and care for you. If your family don't want to know still, then they are not worth having. I hope everything goes well for you!

Read your additional posts. Your wife is not a very nice person by the sounds of it, are you both responsible for the debt you are in? if so she should be working together with you to get the debt management plan set up etc. It is not a mans job to worry about stuff like that, if she ran up the debt aswell then it is her responsibility too! Even if it wasn't her fault, she should still be helping you. You say she is in her own world and won't listen to you, does she have any problems going on in her life at the moment?