Wanting to reinvent me?!

Wanting to reinvent me?

I am at a point in my life where change is needed. What I am looking to do is just all round reaquaint myself with me. I am looking for ways others have done this. What you did? How you did it? Did it work? Was it what you wanted and how did it change your life?

I have been through some really hard times over the past six months. In that time too I really learned appreciation for myself. I need to make more changes though. I am gay male, and that is not the purpose of my change. I like me. I am going to do a man fast and abstain from any type of sex or dating. I am going to change my life. I think abstienance is needed to make that happen. I want to work out regularly. Eat right. Save money and fix my credit. Spend time with my dogs and be active with myself. Not with friends, though I want to retain my friendships during this time. How do I let my friends know what I am doing without making them upset with me?

4 weeks ago
I am 27. I want my life to go in the right direction and learn my happiness. I am not asking you to tell me what to do, I am asking what you have done for you and how it changed you and made your life better. Just to get other ideas. Thank you!

There is nothing wrong with taking a sabbatical to sort out your personal life. Just explain to your friends that that is what you are doing; real friends will understand.

As far as reinventing yourself, I don't know that this is possible; I think it is more being able to recognize those qualities in ourselves that we want to emphasize. Curiously, I went through much the same thing when I was in my late twenties. I'm 36 now and far more confident in myself and my life. For me it was more taking stock of the things and qualities I had in my favour, and letting go of a lot of the hangups I had when I was younger. I really accepted myself. Another big change from that time was becoming Atheist. When I dropped the concept of God, I was free from chains that had weighed me down my entire life.