What else can i do and should do hes driven me insane and me and hubby trying to!


Question:

What else can i do and should do hes driven me insane and me and hubby trying to be strong stick by him?

its all and way too much for me with roommate im ready to have myself admitted in psych unit tried all approaches called cops mental health and nothing anyone can do
as far as the roommate and his behavior attitude and all else
and also trying so hard to make it work with roommate living here but hopefully now his parents family will encourage him to smarten up before he burns all his bridges and convience him to get help help himself and change or he will lose only real friends he has made down here and ruin a good thing and nice place to live.

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3 weeks ago
hes also pissing on floors and wiping human **** on walls and hes lazy and claims he likes living here and me and my husbands friends but all this and his behavior show different.


Answers:

It sounds to me like your roommate has some mental health issues, and is unable to help himself. And there is not a lot you can do to "fix" this person, no matter how badly you would like to. You can make suggestions to him and his family, but that's about all you can do for them. THEY have to take the iniative.

But what about you? Why do you feel so responsible for this person? Why are you living with a person who has so many problems that it is affecting YOUR life so much? Why are you allowing this to go on and on and on? You sound like a kind person who is trying to help, but if it is affecting you so negatively, then its definitely time to stop. This person is going to end up bringing you and your life down, and that will not be good for him or you.

You have to put your foot down on this. You have to give an ultimatum that will change things NOW. Either he or his family gets him some help NOW, and you see changes NOW, or he cannot stay with you any longer. If this person is unable or unwilling to start working on themselves, then you are unable / unwilling to allow them to live with you any longer. At the very least, you are unable / unwilling to allow yourself to be a part of this persons problems. You are not being cruel, you are only trying to take care of yourself. If this person brings YOU down, you will NOT be able to take care of yourself, so its imperative that things CHANGE, and CHANGE NOW. It sounds like you've tried everything else and it hasn't worked. You didn't cause this problem and you're not going to be able to cure it. Start taking care of your own problems. I'm not saying this in a negative / selfish way. I am saying it for your own mental health and your survival. You're right - it IS way too much for you. Good luck.




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