What Is Your Opinion?!

What Is Your Opinion?

I really don't know what to do anymore. It just seems as though I'm just so tired of living the way I do. Every day has become a struggle for me. I'm 26 years old and never had a friend in my life and never had a boyfriend (I'm gay). Life wasn't meant to be lived alone and it's just so painful enduring each and every day when there is no one to talk to and when you live in a world that wants nothing to do with you.

I know that I am alone because of my phsyical appearance. I'm height/weight proportionate and very well groomed, but I have an unattractive face. It may sound trivial, but I struggle with even buying clothes for myself because I feel as though I am not worth it.

I posted a question on here which asked if people that are unattractive should shop at places like AE and Aeropostale; wear modern/popular shoes etc. ,and one person who responded really stuck in my head. I'm paraphrasing, but she had essentially said that if you are ugly you should dress ugly to

1 month ago
32 minutes ago
match your face. It may sound a bit harsh, but at least she had the ability to be honest. It's true. It seems that people who look as I do are undeserving of wearing such things. No amount of modern clothes are going to hide the fact that I'm ugly.Everyday life is a constant reminder of what it is I long to have but do not posess. Something as basic as seeing two guys hang out with one another hurts b/c I want so badly to be a part of this world. It's as though I'm constantly looking through the window; watching pople as though I'm a mere observe. I want so badly to be able to participate.I've made a concerterd effort to meet pople and have failed miserably. Although I hated the idea of experiencing so much in the way of rejection, I went to many bars and clubs in order to meet a guy to have in my life, but I just wound up sitting alone for hours watching other people have a great time . After a while, it became evident that I was only punishing myself and so I stopped

1 month ago
32 minutes ago
out all together. Recently, I went to Manhattan in order to meet other guys at a community center but again was ignored by everyone.I have gone to therapy and have met three professionals that meant quite a bit to me. Some would say that I wasn't unattractive and instilled a bit of hope within me, but this really didn't benefit me much due to the fact that the "collective voice" or the outside world disagreed with there assertion. I'll always value the psychiatrist and psychologist I worked with in Charlotte, N.C. They both left the facility where I was a patient, however, and I could no longer see them. That prompted me to come home to New York, and the person I sought to work with for help, this time a social worker, gave me the impression that I was too ugly to find happiness. I had told her that I never wanted to give up longing to find someone to love and trying to meet other people, but she seemed to have the opinion that it was just causing me more pain than anyt

1 month ago
32 minutes ago
Perhaps she's right, but how can I ever accept a life like this? I don't want to live this way anymore. I don't want to hurt all of the time. Has anyone been able to find happiness in spite of the fact that they are unattractive? Is life worth living if you're ugly?

If your looks really bother you, which they do, then save your money and get plastic surgery. It could change your life.

In my opinion you shouldn't care about what other people think if you don't care about the people. Many, many people are insecure and "beat up" on others to make themselves feel better. So, stop listening to people who aren't worthy.

It may not be your looks that put people off, but your attitude. Nobody wants to be around a downer, needy person. If you don't believe that you are "worth it" nobody else will.

I think you need to stop focusing on yourself. I once knew a guy who had his face burned off in an accident. He got a beautiful girlfriend--after the accident. It wasn't his looks that attracted the girl, because he looked hideous. It was his personality.

Perhaps you should volunteer in a burn unit, and you will quickly learn just how good looking you are.