Support with codependency???!
Question:
Support with codependency???
i struggle with codependency and i would like to hear from others who have struggledwith this and what has helped u recover??? also anywhere i can find out of chicago has codependency support groups???????????? thanku sooo much!!
Answers:
Don't give up the struggle, recovery happens one day at a time.
To find out about meetings visit the Codependents Anonymous website and click on the "locate a meeting" link.
http://www.codependents.org/
Some more web based information can be found on Author Robert Burney's website:
http://www.joy2meu.com/
He is the author of: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls
How I have learned to deal with my codependency is by first, learning about the pattern. Then I started doing work on learning about myself, and where my self-esteem and self-concept became distorted.
This helped me to see that I don't have to help others to be okay. It is painful to watch someone we love do things to themselves that are not in their best interest. AND, they have to change their behavior and take care of themselves.
The real truth is: we can't control other people, places or things. It is helpful to learn how to let go, in love, but let go nonetheless. As long as we keep up our rescue, the other person has no incentive to change..... Why should they, we're taking care of that for them, and losing ourselves in the process.
It's wonderful that you asked about meetings. This says that you have learned that it is okay for you to seek the support of others in your struggle. It is the best thing you can do for yourself, and it will be a big part of your recovery.
I wish you all the best, and if you want to read some other information about Codependency, you can also visit my website listed below:
God Bless!