Did you ever refuse to go to someone's funeral? Like an abusive parent?!

Did you ever refuse to go to someone's funeral? Like an abusive parent?

My sister tells me that she will not attend our Father's funeral when he goes because of several reasons from the past; abuse on several levels.
The only reason why we had a discussion is he's been preoccupied for yrs. concerned 'when he goes' ect.
If you had experienced an emotionally [ect] abusive relationship w/a parent-- did not attend their funeral, do you regret it? Did you not go coz you felt you couldn't handle the pain or other reasons?
And what about family members, were they angry w/you or did they understand if you didn't go?
My sister says she doesn't think she'd be able to handle it.
What was your experience?

You don't have to go to someone's funneral. It's a polite gesture to sho your support to the familt or even give you a chance to say your final goodbye, but there are lotso f reasons not to go. Maybe it's too hard for you, or you don't want your last memory to be of him laying in a coffin. I'm thinking your sister has forgiven him for what he did to her, and that is understandable. You shouldn't be forced to go to someone's funneral if you don't want too. If your family doesn't understand this, then they are immature and unsupportive. Botom line, if she doesn't want to go to say goodbye or for some other reason, no biggie, death is a sensitive subject.