I need help from people or spouses/partners of people with bipolar disorder...?!

I need help from people or spouses/partners of people with bipolar disorder...?

My fiance and i have been together for 7 1/2 years...about 3 1/2 years ago he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Needless to say it has been a long hard road and the medications that have been tried only make the mood swings worse (alot worse).... I know that alot of the time he cannot help some of the things he says/does (most of the time he can't remember what he's said to me during some of his episodes). I really love him and we have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and I am 6 months pregnant with our son. But sometimes I wonder why I'm still here. I guess my questions are what can i do to better deal with this disorder? How can I help him to better deal with it? And most importantly, how do i keep myself from resenting him for things that he doesn't remember?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated...and please don't answer if your only doing it for the points.

The best advice I have seen here is seeking support from NAMI and DBSA. I'm going to past my bipolar links which include links to them. There is also a great on-line community called BPSO for significant others. I highly recommend that you contact your local NAMI and take their free FAMILY to FAMILY course to help you learn more about Bipolar Disorder and living with your fiance.

I don't mean to scare you because you are pregnant, but I also encourage you to learn everything you can about ADHD and Bipolar Disorder in children since this is hereditary. Many NAMI's offer Visions for Tomorrow, a free class focusing on children, others have other programs that also focus on children. The Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation http://www.bpkids.org is an excellent resource.

Living, even living well with bipolar disorder is possible although challenging. Knowledge is power. Take care.

Bipolar Disorder Internet Resources:

Good Information than anyone can read:
From Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/bipolar_dis...
About.com: http://bipolar.about.com/

Support, Resources and Information:
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance: http://www.dbsalliance.org
National Allisance for the Mentally Ill: http://www.nami.org
Bipolar Significant Others http://www.bpso.org/
Pendulum per support: http://www.pendulum.org/

Good Sources of Information:
National Institute of Mental Health: Bipolar Disorder http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar...

Medline Plus: Bipolar Disorder http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/bipol...

MayoClinic.com: Bipolar Disorder http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bipolar...

Johns Hopkins Medicine: Bipolar Disorder http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/epigen/bp...

emedicine from WebMD: Bipolar Affective Disorder: http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic229.ht...

National Guidline Clearinghouse: Practice guideline for the treatment of patients with bipolar disorder (this includes the regulatory drug alters and warnings) http://www.guideline.gov/summary/summary...

WebMD: Bipolar DIsorder http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder...

PsycCentral:
Goldberg Bipolar Screening Quiz http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/bipolarq...
Bipolar Disorder http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx20.h...
Online Resources http://psychcentral.com/resources/bipola...