What is the best way to control myself or get out of tht tense feeling when i ge!
Question:
What is the best way to control myself or get out of tht tense feeling when i get angry , a high pitch one?
Now a days, iam getting angry now n then for even a petty lie or a small reason which hurts me and i shout on my people like anything. This is just resulting to loose them.
Please help me out to be in control n cool down myself all the time......
Answers:
Self control is a matter of knowledge and understanding. To ask this question suggests that there is none of this. Control is a difficult thing, a very difficult thing. To know yourself you must first understand yourself. Looking inward to understand why you lack that control.
I know that when I used to get angry and lose control, I was almost outside myself, unable to get back into my own body but I watched myself do what I did, yell and scream. Later I would go over it, in my mind, sometimes going over the whole ordeal. Once I was able to see what I was doing, I was able to change that behaviour. Not easily, mind you, but change I did.
Listen to your own words, don't allow a minor thing to escalate into a very big thing. Learn to walk away and think about what is going on in your mind, your environment and your life. Ask for help, if you need it. Don't be afaid to say that it's beyond the scope of your own understanding.
Most of all, change what you can change, if it's friends that cause you to loose control, change your friends. If it's family then there are ways to change that too. Obviously you can't change your family but you can change the things that start trouble. Do this by talking to them, tell them that you are trying to correct this in yourself, they may look inward and correct the things they don't like about themselves.
Finally, you can seek help through many sources such as CAP agencies in your area, groups that help people deal with issues. If there is something that is the cause of this lack of control like drugs, alcohol abuse or gambling, there are outlets that deal with those specific issues.
Good Luck and God Bless,
Rick