My lover is addicted to heroin...?!

My lover is addicted to heroin...?

my soulmate and fiance' has recently revealed to me that he is addicted to heroin and has been trying unsuccessfully to ween himself off of it. he said it it was the worst decision he has ever made and he just wants to feel "normal" again. he does very little amounts just so that he doesn't feel the extreme uncomforts...but he can't get past the third day without it. i got him in touch w/ a 30-day methadone clinic (since the 12-step program is not for him), and he started going today.

i love him so incredibly much, but even if he gets clean, i don't know if i'll ever be able to trust him like i once did. i'm afraid that some day down the road, maybe even a house and a family later with him, he will tell me that he's using again. i desperately want to help him, but i don't want to go down the spiral with him. i told him that i think we shouldn't be together until he's been clean for a while, but scared for the future.

does anyone have any advice?

You are in a difficult situation, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel for him. The first step, is him admitting he has a problem, which he has done. That is not an easy thing to do.

i do not recommend methadone treatment, as that is only prolonging the process and the additiction. Depending on the financial situation, i would look into the rapid opiate detoxification procedure. There is alot of controversey surrounding it, but I can tell you it saved my life, and that of many others. If that procedure it not an option, get him into a 3-5 day detox, at a hospital maybe, and then get him the Naltrexone implant. Naltrexone is an opiate blocker, and is most effective when implanted under the skin. It stays in your system for 8 weeks, and will block the effects of any opiates (such as heroin) if he was to use. I had the implant 3 times after my rapid detox (so for a total of 6 months). That was 8 years ago, i have not used since.

As far as you are concerned, help him take those steps, and be supportive of him, but avoid a serious relationship until he gets over the hump and sees a positive life for himself without the drug. I could never imaging going back, nor would I ever. I think once he gets over the hump, and has the opiate blocker, you will love him that much more for being so strong, and live happiliy ever after.

Note, if he can't get the naltrexone implant, it can also be given as a prescription in a pill form, someone then just has to make sure he takes it.