How do I get over strong emotions?!

How do I get over strong emotions?

These are my emoyional issues:

1) My mom is killing herself by smoking and has scar tissue in her lungs that makes it hard to breathe anyway.

2) I might lose my best friend to someone who called my mom a b***h 4 years ago and I can'y get over it.

3) I have no one to talk to in order to get these feelings out

4) Another of my friends doesn't listen too well.

5) People baraging me with "get over it and forget about it" when it's impossible not to.

6) I wonder, after I go to college, if my mom will die and I would not have gotten the chance to tell her "I love you" one last time.

What can I do solve this, aside from seeing a psychologist?

1.) It must be hard to accept and understand why your mother continues to smoke. She probably really does want to be healthier, for your sake, but she might feel powerless. That's what happens when you have an addiction. She is on her own path though, don't forget that. You aren't responsible for her decisions, and you can't control her journey in life. One of the best things you can do here is to respect and love herself -- that's a gift to yourself and your mother.

2.) I think you might just be at an age where friendships (alliances?) can change a lot, sometimes quickly, and often painfully. Really the best remedy is accepting that it's happened, and, deciding how you will move forward. If you believe that YOU are a good friend to others, move ahead proudly and find new people to relate to.

3.) Is there really no one to talk to, or are you afraid to trust someone with your feelings? You might be surprised by an adult at your school, or one somewhere else that has some sense of who you are? Are you able to get to a health clinic of some sort? Some areas have people who you can talk to, and they won't charge you much, if anything. Seeing a counselor of some sort isn't necessarily a huge commitment. Sometimes just one conversation with someone who is trained to listen and provide positive feedback can go a long way toward changing your perspective and your attitude.

4.) Is this a friend that you can ask to try to listen better? Sounds like you really need a friend to talk to, whether it's about serious issues, feelings, fears, or fun stuff that makes you laugh -- is this friend an option if you specifically ask for their input, or just their ear?

5.) Yea, not very helpful is it? That's how most, if not all, of these people deal with their own stuff, for better or worse. If that doesn't work for you, sometimes or always, that's okay. That's who you are, and finding other people more like yourself will help -- those might be friends your age, adults you relate to, professionals you might talk to (like a psychologist).

6.) My mother was very ill when I left for college, and that made it hard for me to leave home. It's a scary thing, and fear is a very powerful emotion. Accept it's there, and practice reassuring yourself that you and your mom are going to be okay, regardless of what happens. Talk to her about how you feel sometime, if you think she is open to that.