What's the best way to help an alcoholic recover?!

What's the best way to help an alcoholic recover?

A relative has been a raging alcoholic for about 10 years now. Example: In April she spent £880 in Bargain Booze! She has been in numerous drying out clinics and received all the relevant treatments but as soon as she is back home she drinks herself into oblivion. She seemingly doesnt want to stop drinking, but myself and other relatives want to try to help her to stop - with or without her cooperation. Recently, my mum and I have spent many hours decorating her new council bungalow and furnishing in a very homely way (her old flat stank of wee & poo (yak)) and being with her alot to prevent loneliness. She has carers going in twice a day every day as she has difficulty getting around. She has been out of her latest stint in respite for about 3 weeks and has already spent £130 on booze.... wee'd all over the bungalow and sh*t herself numerous times. The place was a sh*t hole... literally.

1 month ago
Other relatives are now saying that she should be allowed small amoutns of drink as she will find it too difficult to stop completey and will end up doing something silly, i.e. overdose (as cleverly tried a million times in the past) I feel like not devoting any more time and effort to this as I feel allowing her drink at all defeats the whole blinkin point!!!!!!!!! Does anyone else agree?

1 month ago
She claims to want to stop but makes absolutely no effort. I can't see how she can possibly get any lower than she already is. Apart from having absolutley noone to care for her. Our only fear of letting her wallow in her own self pity is that she'll succeed on one of her many overdose attempts. She never actually takes enough to do any serious harm but she might if she feels abandoned.

She has been given SO MANY chances of rebuilding her life and taking up hobbies, meeting new people but she prefers to stay indoors and drink until she cant control her own bodily functions! I do not want to carry on cleaning up after her!
We have tried to take control of her money and bank accounts but she just accusing us of stealing from her and threatens to report us to her bank for fruad. She turns extremely nasty when drunk.
I just dont know what to do for the best

1 month ago
We have tried on numerous occassions to get her sectioned but she is very clever and manipulative when it comes to doctors and psychiatrists. She knows what she should say to convince them that she's fine so they refuse to section her!!!!!!

hi im dave and im an alcoholic , there isnt much you can do unless she has the desire to stop drinking . its sad but true . controlled drinking wont work .you might want to take a vidio camera with you the next time you see her drunk and record her actions , when you see her sober show her the vidio , that might embarrass her enough to seek help and stick with it .you might think that is a mean trick to play on her but if it works it might save her life . most alcoholics are hiding something from the past or holding onto resentments . read step 4 and 5 in the AA big book .there are AA an AL -ANON meetings in almost every city around the world , i suggest that you go to an AL-ANON meeting ,there is lots of support there for family and friends of alcoholics .