Advice about Depression?!

Advice about Depression?

Ok but I think my ex is really depressed, first her parents and her do not get along then her favorite aunt is getting deported and now her best friend had to go back to peru cause her student visa ran out and she doesnt think she will ever see her again. Now all she does is hang out with the wrong crowd and she says she has no idea what she is doing in life. Its hard for me cause im the best influence on her life but she just acts so strange now and im scared she might like Od on something she is only 19 so i know thats alot to deal with at young age. Should I be aggresive and step in to help her to get her life on track or should i just let her come to her senses by herself???

Its hard cause I heard depression effects judgment and makes u not want to hang with people ur close to and i think thats why me and her dont talk as much and stuff anymore.

Your concern is really touching. The important thing is to make her realize that you are still there as a friend for her. Don't become all preachy with her with speaches like, 'I feel really concerned with your drug use' right now. I suffer from depression and other disorders and it makes me really uncomfortable when my family or friends ever said things like that. Any type of statement they made like they knew something was wrong with me made me push them away more.

Best thing would be to get her involved with other things without putting down her more recent choices. Think about what she used to love doing or places she loved going, and then help her reconnect with that.

Another thing that really helped me was to get involved with something bigger than myself. I started volunteering some time to a local food shelf. Seeing what problems other people were overcoming helped put things in perspective for me and gave me a little more strength to keep going.