How can i make eye contact when i go out without staring or miss percieving a th!

How can i make eye contact when i go out without staring or miss percieving a threat? if i look at another?

man and i look away because i feel scared, because im afraid to hold eye contact, i feel as though hes taken control and made me feel afraid, then it triggers a rage outburst and the urge to act out....im really scared of this, because i dont want to get into trouble, but im angry and enraged that i can never hold eye contact, because i try desperatly to be condfident and in control, but then when another guy looks at me, my eyes lock, and i feel compelled to stare until he looks away, but i can never do it, and i always end up looking away, i percieve a threatening situation and dont no how to handle it, so then i have a rage outburst, and have been very lucky in the past, not to ruin my life. so because of this now, i wont go out because im scared ill flip, and do something i regret..
i have bpd, but i just wanna feel in control of my life and confident to look where i want, not afraid to hold eye contact, because then i feel, ive lost control, and theyve taken it from me

Have you considered wearing sunglasses all the time you're out? I'd do that if I worried so much about someone else playing games about whether I looked at him or not.

Of course, that might draw attention to you. Maybe just small sunglasses, little round ones. Tell anyone who asks that you have an eye disease, but just where the tough guys hang out. Hopefully there are places where you can be yourself instead. If not now, you'll find some. Take the sunglasses off there.

I was born on Long Island, but I never spent much time in New York City itself before we moved away. I hear New Yorkers are good at just staring straight ahead, making eye contact with no one, giving no one reason to approach them. You could get an "I heart New York" sign for something you carry regularly and just be like them, for the same reason they do it. It's like being on a team.