Anyone deal with this, men please answer?!
Question: My spouse and i are having problems. Things are not working downstairs for him, i hope people understand the downstairs thing. It starts out good, but then things go limp. anyone deal with this problem and how did you over come it. we have an appointment with our doctor in jan. but any other help would be nice. what can some of the cause's be, and how can we ease the tentions and frustration, ecspecially for my spouse, he feels terrible.
Answers: My spouse and i are having problems. Things are not working downstairs for him, i hope people understand the downstairs thing. It starts out good, but then things go limp. anyone deal with this problem and how did you over come it. we have an appointment with our doctor in jan. but any other help would be nice. what can some of the cause's be, and how can we ease the tentions and frustration, ecspecially for my spouse, he feels terrible.
you say he starts off good (right?)... two possible reasons:
1. poor stamina... a regular exercise program (cardio) should help
or
2. he loses focus. if he's thinking too much about satisfying you or having a 'happy ending', it might have a negative effect. make sure that he is relaxed, and not putting pressure on himself to perform
if it was something more severe, he wouldn't be able to get started in the first place
Alot of things can cause this problem. If he was recently put on any medication, or stress at work or school, or if you recently had kids, etc. He might need to change his diet or his life style. If all else fails, there are medications that can help the problem, and then some.
I've heard about this sort of thing happening, but it is definately much funnier when you actually hear (read?) someone say (type?) it. Seriously, I am laughing here. Your poor hubby has a case of the limp dick. My advice: Um, Viagra? Dress really sexy? idk. The doctor will probably be more help than we can.
Sounds like stress to me.
That can be caused by so many different things. He could have a medical condition or it could be from a med he is currently on. Could be because he is overweight or the age think could be creeping up on him. Good news is that they have a easy cure for it. Got to love the makers of Viagra!
Stress, depression, anxiety... blood pressure... sugar diabetes...low testosterone, or hormone imbalance.... you know.. there could be lots of reasons causing the loss of erection. Seeing a Doc is the best move. In the interim, dont put too much presure on him to perform and no pitiful sooky looks. A bit of spanking however, is permitted.
For the lack of a better title lets call it performance anxiety.
I assuming that you both love and are turned on be each other. don't have intercourse go to bed be naked cuddle
explore each other body, kiss and what ever.. but don't have intercourse or oral. its going to be difficult to not complete.
but this will take off the pressure and make it fun again
relax and have fun
This is what your doctor will ask:
1. does he exercise regularly (4x/week)?
2. does he limit his daily fat intake?
3. does he eat enough fruits and vegetables (antioxidants)?
4. is he a nonsmoker?
5. does he have a glass of wine with dinner (help him relax)?
6. is his bmi acceptable?
7. does he sleep regularly?
your doctor will insist that he answers "yes" to all of the above questions before going any further.
If he answers "no", help get to the point where he can answer "yes" to each of the above...
good luck
My health food store here in Long Beach, CA., (Beach Health Tree located on Redondo Avenue) sells a wonderful homeopathic herbal product called, "Maxhim", that I swear by will solve his problem. I've tried other stimuli and had all kinds of adverse reactions, like stomach pain, vomiting, extraordinary saliva build up and congestion, headaches, etc. But not with Maxhim... it is also a great source of good and healthy nutrients for the body and the liver and kidneys. But I learned the hard way that it does not mix well with sleeping pills... do not take a sleeping pill while on Maxhim... my head was spinning for 3 days.
try more forplay see if that dont work for him
Does he have a rather large penis? I've heard bigger ones tend to go limp at times because of the required amount of blood.
Mine is small and don't have that problem.
He may also be adding to the problem by thinking too much about it. Does he go limp while inside you? And how long of a time are we talking about?