Father and porn?!
Question: I walked in on my dad watching a porn show on t.v. It was really disturbing and the girl looked just like me except a little bit older (i'm 15). Do guys usually do this (look at porn i mean)? He's married to my mom and they are both christians and get along okay. This was without her in there, she was babysitting my 3month old I was sick and went to get a benadryll from my parents room. She was in the geust bedroom with my daughter. When I went in there he just demanded what I was doing up so late (it was 10, wasnt late at our house) and kept doing what he was doing and I left. ? Is this normal? Am i making to big a deal about it? I posted this answer on the adolescent page too but, I want to know what guys think about this?
Answers: I walked in on my dad watching a porn show on t.v. It was really disturbing and the girl looked just like me except a little bit older (i'm 15). Do guys usually do this (look at porn i mean)? He's married to my mom and they are both christians and get along okay. This was without her in there, she was babysitting my 3month old I was sick and went to get a benadryll from my parents room. She was in the geust bedroom with my daughter. When I went in there he just demanded what I was doing up so late (it was 10, wasnt late at our house) and kept doing what he was doing and I left. ? Is this normal? Am i making to big a deal about it? I posted this answer on the adolescent page too but, I want to know what guys think about this?
Parents like to raise children in innocent ignorance about sex. It has its plusses and its minusses. On the plus side it makes the parents feel like they have not sullied the impressionable minds of their children. On the negative side it means that sooner or later the child will inevitably encounter something from the adult sexual realm that they find shocking. Heres the deal--we are sexual beings. Our race would have died out long ago if we were not. It is a powerful drive, all living things including us humans are subject to it during adult life. Thats just the way it is. On top of that, men are visually oriented. Thats just how it is. Sex is an important component of our minds and of our personalities, but it is only a part. I guarantee you that the finest men and women who have ever lived have all had a sexual component to their beings. As long as no one gets hurt, as long as no children are exploited, as long as everything that happens is voluntary, this is not a problem. And the vast majority of time, it is no problem, it is simply biologically adult people giving expression to the sexual component of their being, and thats all. Your dad is a man. Men are this way. Any man you could name is basically the same way, and that includes all of the saints, all of the popes, all of the ministers, pastors, and priests. Its the way God made us. Do not be shocked, do not be disappointed. We are human.
Not to offend you, condemn you, or anything, but you are 15 years old with a 3 month old daughter. The least of your concerns should be your father watching porn. He is a grown man, and if your mom doesn't mind neither should you. In my opinion, you are making a big deal out of nothing and should be more concerned about why your mother is taking care of your daughter in the other room and not yourself.
Sorry if this sounded harsh!
maybe his not gettin any sexual pleasure??
OK, I will try and explain.
1) I feel that your father is not pressing having sex with mom, as she may still be recovering from having a new child.
2) Dad may feel that looking at the porn is "harmless" and it will help with his emotions
3) He got angry, as he got caught and it may damage your opinion of him.
4) Yes, overall, looking at porn (regardless of your belief) can be corrosive to a relationship, but since he is using it for a "specific" purpose, feels he can beat it.
Do not judge your father too harshly but he should be far more cautious in how he handles these matters.
he's a man and simply a normal human being with a curious mind and desire to satisfy,sexually for that matter.so get over it and stop worrying ,he's married to your mom anyway ,not like he is cheating or something.........after all you grown up enough to understand these scenarios...chill out.
He's probably stressed out about you having a baby and needs something to relieve it.
Well as a person dealt with this,I remebr when I was 3 or 4 my dad would look at porn on my computer.I rember he would make me go to my room and his friends would croud around the computer.Best to just ignore it.
Guys all watch porn and we all jack off! Nature of the beast....LOL!