Hard for a guy....?!
Question: I'm a new guy at a high school and i have a trust problem, basically i won't talk to a person unless they've spoken to me first, this is something that i can't get over because of things that have happened to me, but anyways, i'm trying to make friends, and its hard for me, any suggestions, and nothing like TALK MORE or obvioulsy things please, i'm serious, i dont wanna be a loner senior...i wanna make fun of the loner senior.lol. help me out, oh and theres this girl that i like but i just moved here so i don't know her friends and i don't know much about her, how do i find out if she likes me at all...come on guys help me out here
Answers: I'm a new guy at a high school and i have a trust problem, basically i won't talk to a person unless they've spoken to me first, this is something that i can't get over because of things that have happened to me, but anyways, i'm trying to make friends, and its hard for me, any suggestions, and nothing like TALK MORE or obvioulsy things please, i'm serious, i dont wanna be a loner senior...i wanna make fun of the loner senior.lol. help me out, oh and theres this girl that i like but i just moved here so i don't know her friends and i don't know much about her, how do i find out if she likes me at all...come on guys help me out here
The club idea is a good idea but I suggest places like homeroom or study hall or detention lol, or any free period/time where u can focus on making friends. To avoid initiating a conversation just start doing the things you like in in front of a group. If its music, bring the latest CD from a hot artist your interested in. Or if you can play, grab a guitar someplace outside just rip it. Or if its sports (and if your good) go by the court/field and show off a little bit (but not too much lol).
You get what i mean. Do whatever it is you do and and the kind of people youd wanna be friends with will gravitate to you. The thing is not to look lonely and nervous that scares people away. Be relaxed in your own skin when you're around whomever and all will be cool.
As for the advice on the ladies...some of this could work for if wanted a certain kind of relationship....which is why this part is so complicated and why I'm passing it on to someone else because i could mess you up without more info, lol.
#1 hope your kidding about making fun of lone sen. J/K #2 Surley they have clubs after skool. join one ur intrested in and u will find people interested in the subject ur interested in. GOOD LUCK WITH HIGH SKOOL---
dont be a follower be a leader
Sounds like you may have had a bad experience. Sorry to hear that. But if you are going to wait until another person talks to you you may end up being the "loner senior".
Think about how you conduct yourself. Do you walk around with a scowl or do you look cheerful? The later is more likely to result in someone else making the first move.
Whether you want to or not you will have to give other people a reason to want to talk to you. Are you good at a particular subject ? Could you help someone else who is not so good at that subject. Is there a school subject someone could help you with?
I understand how you feel if you have had a bad experience but just remember not everyone is a rat bag.
Good luck in your search for friends
I was shy until late in life it takes time to get over it, stay away from negative people that make you feel like protecting yourself , be around people that make you feel good. and practice making other people feel good, think about other peoples feelings and you will be amazed at how many friends you get.
I know how feel,When i read this it took me back in the day.I was just like you,but this happen to me when i was in the 6-7th grade,I never wanted to talk to other people unless they 1st talked to me,and also about the girl.I knew this girl and i had a crush on her and she had one on me too.(her friend once told me) So finally i got the guts to talk to her,but i didn't just wake up 1 day and started to talk to her.1st i started slow just said hi and small stuff,then moved on to small talk,and finally just start to talk to her.and now we been going out for 6 years.Like I said it took almost a school year in a half.
GOOD LUCK
get involved with a sport or club at your school try to make the first move by asking a simple question or just introduce yourself ti will be well worth the effort do it now
Well first off, have you ever heard the phrase, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"? You can't go around with the attitude of "I wanna tease the loners" and not expect to get teased yourself! My best advice is to not get in the habit of teasing anybody, just be an all around cool likable guy!
Get involved in some sports or clubs that interest you, at least in these environments there is common ground with the others giving you topics of conversation with out having to struggle too hard for something to say.