Gay men. How do you cope with homophobes everyday in your life?!
Question: Unfortunately, sometimes you'll come across them. How will you react?
Answers: Unfortunately, sometimes you'll come across them. How will you react?
you know, I have a "few" years on most here and it has been my experience that those who protest the most or the loudest are the ones who are intimidated because they are thinking about it now and then too and that scares the fudge right out of them and they desire it to be repacked. As others have stated well enough, their fear is expressed as hate. Gay or Straight, guy or girl, a person knows who is and is not going to get in their pants and any individual secure with their sexuality is never intimidated. I say this in the context that the devil you know cannot hurt you as much as the devil you don't know. Just always be true to who you are in every situation, don't do what so many other guys do and go completely stereotypical gay as a way to show independence ( the we are here, we are queer, get used to it mentality) because that only provokes more hatred and, at best, its juvenile. It also wouldnt hurt to keep yourself in good shape, work out and learn basic self defense mostly because if you do that your "dance card" will be so full all the time cuz you will be HOT! and too, if a homphobe decides he cannot live without picking a fight, you will be able to kick his self hating a** so bad that he would require massive amounts of drugs to kill the pain!
I havent really come out the 'closet' yet but i dont really mind it. Ive kinda been use to it and i kinda say some gay remarks myself. Maybe all these homophobes are getting into my mind =/
It actually makes me feel more confident about myself. It shows how much more intelligence I possess than them. I'm not trying to sound superior..., it just their ignorance is so obvious.
I deal with it like everything else. If it does not directly affect someone in there life they are often uninformed and mislead and tend to generalise a group of people. I personally have alot of straight male friends because they have gotten to know me. They realise that just because i am gay does not mean im going to rape them. And just because i am gay does not mean every male in the entire world is attractive. I shrug it off. Im not here to force my life and what i was given on any one. I also respect that people do the same for me. Do not force your religion on me because it says that i am blasphomous and am doing the wrong thing and i can choose right. I always want to hear what people say, but someone who has nothing nice to say and doesnt even listen i walk away from. It's not worth there time and its definatley not worth mine.
there just silly and like pig girls
There is not a single homophobe in my everyday life. I surrounded myself with nice, intelligent, open-minded people. If you live in a big city in a Western country you can easily arrange your life so that you never have to see or hear any homophobes.
I despise homophobes, I think they are degenerate, dirty, disgusting people. I see them often on TV.
i just laugh and not get so easily offended. like when someone says "that's so gay" i say "that's so gay" too, just to be funny. you can't always gripe about people being homophobes. just enjoy life and don't care about them.
Chad M gave you the best answer. People are naturally afraid of what they don't understand and as a result they sound homophobic. Do your best to be understanding and forgiving. Consider the source and move on. Sometimes I know it is hard and that is when having a good friend is so important.
In the past I was always very quiet. I mean in general I didn't draw attention to myself at all. I now however am not flamboyant in public but if people have a problem with me oh well. They can deal with it or leave me alone. Im not myself to please other people or what they feel is right or wrong. Im myself for me. And they should know that. Its not like I choose to be different I just am and I have the courage to be who god made me to be.
It's a sad fact of life I'm affraid. You just have to learn to live with it. Just remember that there are people around you who do love you for who you are. Good luck.