Im a straight guy and i kissed a guy?!
Question: well... im a guy and i made out with another guy...
i have always been straight and i love women... i get turned on with women, but when THIS guy showed up he just turned me on. he is a friend of a friend of mine and i met him in a bar. after a while we've been talking (and among friends) we made out...
well the thing is that none of us are gay and have straight minds... but he turned me on and he told me i turned him on... :S i never felt attraction to any guy but this guy seems so...
am i gay for this?! he has a girlfriend and i still have feelings for my girl... please help me? this is making me nuts! i think maybe he is BI ?? please help
Answers: well... im a guy and i made out with another guy...
i have always been straight and i love women... i get turned on with women, but when THIS guy showed up he just turned me on. he is a friend of a friend of mine and i met him in a bar. after a while we've been talking (and among friends) we made out...
well the thing is that none of us are gay and have straight minds... but he turned me on and he told me i turned him on... :S i never felt attraction to any guy but this guy seems so...
am i gay for this?! he has a girlfriend and i still have feelings for my girl... please help me? this is making me nuts! i think maybe he is BI ?? please help
Most guys have bisexual feelings, whether they will admit it or not. Gays are only atttracted to other guys, not attracted to females so you are not gay. You are bisexual, but so what, well over 50 percent of all guys are bisexual whether they ever act on it or not. Just normal part of being a male to be attracted to other males as well as females. Look at any group of guys-- they hang together as friends, but there is usually a pack leader and the other guys that hang around are sexually attracted to the leader whether they consciously know it or not. Don't sweat your experience, put it down to a good, enjoyable experience that does not make you "gay", makes you "normal".
if you do it once then its ok, twice or more you need to re-examine your orientation. just be honest with yourself! and stay away from guns, nooses, or any sharp objects.
If you both have girlfriends , what you are doing is in effect cheating on them . The fact that another guy is involved makes no difference from a woman .
If you are to continue to have a relationship and move it on with this guy , you both have to realise that when your other partners find out they will feel betrayed and angry.
You need to have a real think about your sexuality , even although you have stated you and he are straight , that doesn't quite tie up with being turned on by each other .
Sexual orientation is more complicated than some people think. It is not always black and white, gay or straight. Don't try to label yourself. There is no right or wrong. Follow your instincts and go with what feels right to YOU, not to your friends or society.
My only advice is do not have more than one partner at a time. Be in a relationship and end it before you move on to another, regardless of your gender selection. You do not want to be in the business of trampling on other people's emotions. Oh, and use protection, for you and your partner.
You're not "gay for this"...
Actions don't make you gay, straight, etc. Sexual attraction is what defines your sexual orientation.
Don't worry about it man. If it really bothers you, don't do it again. If you liked it, then you might consider doing it again. It's that simple. Don't worry about what anything "means".
Best of luck to you!
If you're a guy and you're hooking up with and being turned on by a guy....you're not straight.
You're definately more in touch with your emotions, "i never felt attraction to any guy but this guy seems so..." My buddies and I have never said this....about a guy or a girl.
I'd tell the girlfriend you're more into the dude than her so she can decide if she wants to stick around. If you're bi, then safely explore your bi-side.
your both gay
I'm Bi..it is fun! Hit me up sometime if you are hot-LOL!!!
You did this among friends? How peculiar. You probably had a few drinks under your belt and that sometimes helps you to drop your guard. I think you are probably Bi. Don't be upset by that. Choose whom you want to be with and be faithful to them...don't be a player.
Doesn't mean you are gay. Not at all. What can I say, love is genderless.
dont worry about it......live life your way, not how others say you should live. be good, honest, and trustworthy and dont worry about other. have a good time!
hmm...
answer these questions:
1) were you sober at the time?
2) did you enjoy it?
3) do you want to do it again?
4) does he turn you on more than your girl?
if you answered 'yes' to any of the above, you are mentally 'bi'. here try this question:
1) if you had to pick, between doing you girl, or doing your new guy friend - which would it be?
is the answer to this is guy friend....it appears you are turning queer.
Okay here's the deal. If you kissed a guy passionately on the lips and was turned on by it, you are gay! Period, end of discussion. Believe it or not, this is actually more of an indication of sexuality than if you were to masturbate with each other (an activity that a lot of straight guys do in adolescence). Unless that stuff is ongoing, it can usually that stuff can be explained away with sexual curiosity, hormones, etc.
But there is no getting around it, an erotic kiss signifies an genuine attraction for someone and if you are attracted to this guy in a sexual way, then you must be gay (or at least bi-sexual) otherwise you would be completely turned off by it. The only possible exception to this rule would be if you were both high on extacy and weren't in your right frame of mind. *NOTE: Straight guys should never do extacy alone with each other because it WILL make you gay for a period of time. If you are still both attracted to women then you are probably both bi-sexual. What you need to do now is one or two things. Either, don't kiss him again (because you are basically cheating on your girlfriend), or break up with your girlfriend and give it a go with him. There is nothing wrong with being gay or bi, but don't live in denial. You can be bi and still have a girlfriend but unless you plan on being in an open bisexual relationship, it wouldn't be fair to her if you continued to fool around with this guy.
it is possible that both of you are Bi, or at least curious about it. i say talk to him n go from there. you deserve to figure out what you are sexually.
One thing many people don't understand, especially women(as I see by some of the answers here), is the power of the male sex drive. It overrides any rational consideration of attraction at times; all men may more or less be considered as bisexual, at least under the proper conditions. This situation of men who are straight yet occasionally hook up with each other is known as "men who have sex with other men", rather than the label of gay or bisexual. There are far too few men that care to admit it, but many men will masturbate with other men, particularly their male friends, yet consider themselves straight.
For men, the physical is all that matters when it comes to sex, so a man can just as easily reach an orgasm with another man as he might with a woman; the defining label of one's sexuality as gay or bi is a complicated one when defining sexual behaviour, but it may be stated that beyond the physical attraction, there has to be an acceptance of identity as a part of one's personality when identifying oneself as either gay or bi. This is an acceptance that is personal, not external.
What I am saying here is that the only person to tell you your sexual identity is yourself. You yourself say in your question that you have a "straight mind", so that is the answer to your question.
Queer.