I'm a virgin and im thinking about having sex?!
Question: ok so. im almost 16 years old. and ive been with my great gf for 6 monthes now. we are best friends. things are great. but a lot of the time i have sex on my mind. and want to do it w/ her. Shes a virgin too, and pretty prude >_< i respect her and her morals. so what im really trying to ask. is how should i handle all of this? should i try to talk to her about it? if so, how?
Answers: ok so. im almost 16 years old. and ive been with my great gf for 6 monthes now. we are best friends. things are great. but a lot of the time i have sex on my mind. and want to do it w/ her. Shes a virgin too, and pretty prude >_< i respect her and her morals. so what im really trying to ask. is how should i handle all of this? should i try to talk to her about it? if so, how?
If you respect her, you will respect her values as well. Of course you have sex on your mind, you're 16! Even if you didn't have a girl friend you would have sex on your mind. Life is not always about self-gratification in the moment, sometimes, one has to wait ... longer than a few months!
well this is a very complex and delicate situation ok...i just let the magic happen... just make sure you have condoms on hand and beeeeeeeee gentle
#1- BE SAFE
#2- Always respect your partner. Definitely talk to her about it. Don't just try to put the moves on her and expect her to go all the way without any warning. If she has any doubt, then don't do it, and absolutely don't pressure her.
#3- Just be honest and respectful when you bring it up. Tell her you want to be with her physically, and see how the conversation goes.
#4- (This is important!) If you get to this stage, don't expect it to be that good. Since you're both virgins, it might be different from the feelings you're used to experiencing. Just practice, practice, practice!
Good luck I hope you find what you're looking for. : )
Edit: Oh yeah, by the way, if you can't talk to her about it, then you are not yet ready for it. Take your time and let it happen naturally, just because she says it's okay doesn't mean you should lay her on the spot. Make it special and she will appreciate it.
You need to tell her you want her, and if she says no, then you dont try anything. Respect her and she'll come along. if ya'll do decide to do the deed,talk to her about the pill, and ask her if shes comfortable with whats going on. And BE GENTLE! Im 14 and the first time i had sex it hurt. And he was being as gentle as he could. Just remember, Condoms, Birth Control and The Morning After Pill. and make it romantic, for Christ's sake.
although i think that you are still too young to have sex but have a talk with your gf and see what she says.....if she still wants to wait just respect her wishes. if you 2 decide make sure you have condoms on hand. the best safe sex is NO SEX. but if you must practice using all forms of protection including birth control.
do it.
just wait till the time is right for the both of you. and be safe. ,dont rush it.
so don't do anything stupid, like forcing yourself into her, just try fingering her for a while see if she enjoys it
you definitely should have sex, a lot of people wait for something and then regret waiting, if you both want it - go for it.
just be like "Hunny, I would like to ask you something. I really love you and I would really like to be inside of you, what do you think about having sex? No pressure though, at all"
Sex changes a relationship, and not always for the better.
As you are both low-risk for already having STDs (not all STDs are spread through intercourse), you only have to worry about: Pregnancy. Jealousy. Cheating. Loss of reputation. Loss of self-esteem. Lying to your parents. Fights due to one partner wanting/not wanting sex. Wondering what will happen if you break up--will he/she talk about me to his/her friends?
Having sex requires a level of responsiblity, maturity, fidelity, integrity, and trustworthiness that not even some adults have.
The decision you are about to make will change the rest of your life permanently. This decision should not be made lightly. I volunteer at a womens health and pregnancy center, and I speak to many, many teenage girls who have begun having sex and are experiencing many of the above situations.
if you both consent then fine. ask her and don't put any pressure on her. use condoms be safe and enjoy it!
you should try to wait your urge out until she becomes ready..so both of you will be happy
Respcet her and don't call her names like prude. You'll never get her to spread her legs for you then. If she's locked in on waiting till marriage, you can lose her with peer pressure.
If she won't and you can't handle it, then masturbate.