Getting circumcised?!
Question: my son is 10 and uncircumcised. and now, because a few of his friends are cut, he wants to get cut as well. he says his foreskin is too long (it is fairly long) even though it does retract. my wife and i had thought we'd done the right thing leaving him intact as nature made him. so far i've told him that when he gets older he will be better off with a protective foreskin. any thoughts?
Answers: my son is 10 and uncircumcised. and now, because a few of his friends are cut, he wants to get cut as well. he says his foreskin is too long (it is fairly long) even though it does retract. my wife and i had thought we'd done the right thing leaving him intact as nature made him. so far i've told him that when he gets older he will be better off with a protective foreskin. any thoughts?
It's a difficult discussion, as there are many things going on. First of all, you and your wife made the right decision leaving him uncircumcised. If your son wants to be circumcised (and eventually does, hopefully not), it'd be his choice. Some circumcised guys feel robbed or violated because they never got that choice that your son has.
Anyway, you can tell him that his foreskin may seem long now, but that he may "grow" into it, so it might look like it's going to get a little shorter in a few years as his penis gets bigger. You could tell him the foreskin is useful for protecting his penis. You could even tell him that one day, his future girlfriend/wife will thank him for keeping his foreskin.
You could tell him that most guys in the world (70-80%) are uncircumcised. You could tell him that even in the US, a lot of boys his age are uncircumcised and never have any problems. Tell him that when it's cut off, it'd hurt a lot and there's no going back. Plus, he'd be losing a lot of feeling down there too. You could say all boys are born with one, but the ones without the foreskin are missing out on a lot.
Whatever you say or do, boost the confidence in your son. Make him feel special, that it's his body and you respect him enough not to do something that'd hurt him. You could retort with, if all his friends got earrings, would he want it too? Probably not, because it hurts and it's silly. It's like the whole jumping off a bridge thing. Your son should be made to feel like an independent individual who shouldn't have to care what other people think.
Lastly, you could just say that you don't want him to make that decision now. Tell him to wait till he's 18, because in a couple years, he might see why the foreskin's good. He very well may change his mind once he realizes what he's got and what his friends might be missing out. You could even say that, since you're circumcised, you wish you still had your foreskin (regardless if you actually do or not, it might help change his mind). And say that there are a lot of guys out there who would envy him for still having his foreskin, so why change that?
I don't know if any of this has helped, but good luck talking your son out of it. He just needs to realize how lucky and special his is right now, and that if he still wants it cut off when he's 18, you'll respect his wishes then.
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