My boyfriend cant get it up.?!
Question: I dont wanna go into a long story so short version both 21 cant usually do anything because we live in dorms, went to hotel drank a little he couldnt get it up tryed oral, hand job nothing, month or so later went back to hotel for the weekend and still couldnt get it up. I dont know what to do. I know he has gotten it up before we will be at dinner or the movies all I do is rub up against him and he is up. This would be our first time with each other but not in general both of us are NOT virgins. He is not gay by the way so please dont say that.
Answers: I dont wanna go into a long story so short version both 21 cant usually do anything because we live in dorms, went to hotel drank a little he couldnt get it up tryed oral, hand job nothing, month or so later went back to hotel for the weekend and still couldnt get it up. I dont know what to do. I know he has gotten it up before we will be at dinner or the movies all I do is rub up against him and he is up. This would be our first time with each other but not in general both of us are NOT virgins. He is not gay by the way so please dont say that.
i would be asking him straight out is he masturbates, how often and when the last time he did it (phrased nicer so its not an interrogation). Its possible hes jerked it just before hooking up with you, however more likely he has performance anxiety. Normally the way around it is not to put an expectation of sex on the night, just enjoy ones company and take it from there. but because you guys have to go to a hotel...its adds more pressure and expectations.
I might suggest, try taking a shower together. Just enjoy it with eachother and no expectations of sex. Other option is to be spontaneous and just say out of no where "im horny let go somewhere". Also, try getting him to give you oral or use fingers on you.
I hate to bring up the gay thing...its likely hes not gay, but have you ever questioned him about it? just things like "do you think he is cute?".
good luck!
Performance anxiety.
You are putting too much pressure on him.
try viagra if he has serious problem. maybe also check with doctor and see what the problem may be.
could be nervousness, anxiety, he is thinking too much, otherwise he is just not ready for it.
its the alcohol!!! or maybe he has sugar!!! my step father drink alot and when he does he can't get it up i know this because i ease drop on my mom conversations lol!!! anyway its beacuse of the alcohol
Yup, he's nervous. There is probably a whole lotta research that's been done on it; try searching in your school's research database (there's probably a link somewhere on the library's homepage). Something like EbscoHost, if they have that.
Drinking can impair the blood flow needed to keep an erection. Thats a good excuse for the first time. i dont know about the second.
He may just be a bit nervous.
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As long as he is not taking medication that could cause it or any drugs then its just mentally he is feeling pressured.. give him time and patience... take a warm bath together one night or just lie together in bed with your arms around each other with music on...then just let nature "rise"..
maybe he really likes you and wants to make it special for you and so he is very nervous and therefore cant get it up. try taking a step back and relaxing not trying to have sex straight away but massages and other stuff and see how it goes. good luck
Maybe its your looks?
Try PORN ! and i don't mean to say in bad way. He is too Young to take Viagra.Since he has performed just fine in past and it work every time you guys are out in public only thing i can think of is that he may or may not say or show it but perhaps deep down he thinks that you are too good for him.Anyway desperate measures takes desperate attempts. Right? Give it a shot what you got to loose..................GOOD LUCK !!!
its the first time for you two, hes probably nervous
Well maybe he has a medical condition unknown to you ,so I suggest he seeks the advice of a physician .Erectile dysfunction is not something us males like to actually broadcast ,but if you guys actually see eachother together for the long haul, you guys should consider the help of an expert.
Maybe you are too ugly?
yep its pressure... poor guy..,
I personally think that you aren't touching him the right way -- he's not in the mood --. What you need to do is stop this fussing because he can't get hard. That's just making him feel bad and naturally it will affect his libado, hence he can't get hard.
If you notice, when you went to the movies and you grabed him unexpectedly, he became erect, true ? The pressure building up is preventing him from getting to that excited state. God gave men two heads for a reason lol if if one isn't working, then use the other lol rofl lol -- tongue duh --.
Don't let that ruin the moment, if he see's your disappointed with him, then that would just make things worse. Let him touch you, feel you and what ever without that and I can bet that if you show him that you liked it then the nxt weekend when you go to that room he'll be fine lol.
EDIT: you aren't ugly, -- honestly -- I just hope you don't complain about the situation to him.
Sometimes gu7s can't handle drinking and sex. Getting him drunk may have killed his brain function to make his penis erect.
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