GUYS!..What's up with him?!
Question: Me and my Bf have been together for about 1 yr and a half. (Dont know if this has anything to do with it.) I lost my virginity to him. He used to last about 5-10 minutes during sex, now he can barely last 3. One time he came with just 1 thrust inside me. (Sorry for the details..)
It's extremely annoying, because we basically cant have sex. Even after the 1st and 2nd.. and 3rd time in like 2 hours he still cant control himself for longer than like 6 minutes? I've been extremely nice about it..
he tried the "squeeze" technique.. i told him to think nasty thoughts but he said he doesnt wanna think of his grandma naked while banging me.
i dont understand. He's been with about 6 partners before me and said nothing like this ever happened.
Also that I just "turn him on soooo much" that he just cant help himself. Is he full of crap or does he have a problem?
What the hell is going on??
Answers: Me and my Bf have been together for about 1 yr and a half. (Dont know if this has anything to do with it.) I lost my virginity to him. He used to last about 5-10 minutes during sex, now he can barely last 3. One time he came with just 1 thrust inside me. (Sorry for the details..)
It's extremely annoying, because we basically cant have sex. Even after the 1st and 2nd.. and 3rd time in like 2 hours he still cant control himself for longer than like 6 minutes? I've been extremely nice about it..
he tried the "squeeze" technique.. i told him to think nasty thoughts but he said he doesnt wanna think of his grandma naked while banging me.
i dont understand. He's been with about 6 partners before me and said nothing like this ever happened.
Also that I just "turn him on soooo much" that he just cant help himself. Is he full of crap or does he have a problem?
What the hell is going on??
Hi Gypsy,
I just gave this answer to another guy with the same problem, and before that about 11 months ago, answering the same problem. Its common. Even tho this was addressed to a guy, you can learn a lot from it that might help. Spending a lot more time with foreplay and pleasuring you first will help. But most critical is open communication between the two of you. Trust and respect each other. Don't be afraid or timid about sharing your ideas and fears, likes and dislikes, and encourage him to do the same.
Oh, yeah. Have him read this with you, too.
Here ya go:
There are a lot of tricks I have learned to use over the years. Some involve not actually making it last any longer, but paying attention to pleasing my partner first. Not being in such a hurry to have an "O" myself. I figure its going to happen so why not take longer to make it more fun? Using various other body parts to impart pleasure first are ideal. Once (or twice or three times) the woman is satisfied, then it doesn't "matter" how long he lasts, does it?
But...other ways:
keeping it all the way inside, while moving your hips in tiny circles, with the mons of both partners rubbing against each other.
using a "counting" technique, like 20 short strokes while deep inside, then 5 long ones, then back to the short 20...repeat until exhausted or satisfied, whichever comes first. (!).
Simply slowing down - as in slow motion (relative to normal movement).
Doing one thing for awhile, until it just starts feeling "good", then switching to something else, or even just going back to kissing and playing for a bit...really, its all good, and it can all add up to one fantastic "O" of you take your time, and I'm not just talking about strokes here.
Doing exercises with the female partner, with her manually manipulating until an almost-critical moment, then very firmly using finger and thumb, squeezing hard at the base for several seconds, then starting over again.
Age helps, as a guy gets older, its easier for him to last longer.
For me, I used to be really concerned about "performance". You know, we guys feel we have to get it "right". It can be a lot of pressure, which equals tension, which equals the muscles all tightened up...Translation: Being comfortable and relaxes with your partner is important.
practicing slowing down. like tensioning your (the guy's) muscles as you might do in relaxation techniques (tighten the right leg, then relax it. tighten the left leg, then relax it. tighten the right thigh, then relax it, etc. Except in this case, then it goes all the way inside, jjust hold yourself there, and will yourself to relax - ease then tension out of your body. Then pull back and do it all over again.
As an aside, drunken one-night stands aren't conducive to good times (yes, I know, sometimes...but usually not).
Trust, care, respect and above all, don't take it too seriously. Have fun with it!
Hope that helps. Have a great time experimenting!
Mike
11 months ago
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I'm a 57 year old man
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Hes full of it.
He def has a problem. It's called premature ejaculation. He's probably embarassed to tell you, but he's lying if he says it "hasn't happened before" and "that you make him so hot"
Sorry to say this. But the attitude you write with; maybe if you criticise him like you write could have a lot to do with it.
Be cool about it and don't nag.
he has a problem. make him go down on you for at least an hour. After sex if he **** fast make go back down and lick his own ***. After a while he will star lasting longer.
If you want men to answer honestly ,shorten your question.
When it comes to questions,men would rather a woman to just
GET TO THE POINT.
try smaller thrust
instead of him thrusting and almost pulling the whole way out, have him only pull back an inch or two then trust forward again.
try different positions. be on top and control him
maybe, your just too hot for him. thats possible too
We all go through stages of endurance. He is going through a stage of very short endurance. Bang him silly for a month... I mean really give it to him every hour or so for a month.... until his nuts turn blue... and see if things improve... :)
Well sometimes it helps the guy out is he j/o b4 you guys do it. Then he wont come right away-hopefully. Also do you guys go real fast or slow? Cause if you can find that out then you might find your answer that way. Cause sometimes when you go too slow it will happen or too fast it might lol guys are weird. Hope that helped a lil.......