Im 13 years old and I could really use some help!?!


Question: heres the thing...I am a straight 13 year old boy but lately,(this year and last) ive been having sexual fantasies about guys. does this mean im gay? or is it just puberty?


Answers: heres the thing...I am a straight 13 year old boy but lately,(this year and last) ive been having sexual fantasies about guys. does this mean im gay? or is it just puberty?

at 13 boys can have dream and fantasies about anything
other boys, girls, movie stars, animals, we are very horny people during the teen years
boys often think about other boys because of curiosity and since we know what we are like, other boys are easier to think about than girls
you are very normal and not gay at all, it is part of puberty

ok so ur a guy and having sexual dreams with a guy..
well if u enjoyed it u could be gay....

idk maybe ur bi u like gurls? some ppl are bi, liking boys and girls.

it's normal

maybe ur bi.

It could meant that you are just confused. Or it might just be puberty cuz you begin to go through changes.

I dont think this means your gay. your a young boy, and i think its normal to have certain thoughts that you are not used to.
Dont worry about it

No, it just means that you may want to experiment...Maybe you like both girls and boys...and you may be gay, but you won't know it until you try...
Just don't worry right now, you are just trying to make up your mind on what you want!

if you enjoy it, then you could be gay. or you could be bi.

Well, it could mean that you're gay - but sometimes it's just a normal part of puberty - but just wait and see...

would it be so bad if you were gay?

i don't think it means you're gay. i do think that most of us will have feelings for the same sex sometime in our life, be it an individual person or a lot of people.

when i was 11 and 12 i used to have a lot of dreams and sexual fantasies about other women... mostly about boobies (lol), but now i'm 21 and don't have these feelings anymore. it might be puberty, it might just be that you can appreciate more than just the female figure.

i think its perfectly natural. i mean i know girls that fantazie about other girls but they would never dare do it in real life. its just something that creates excitement in your sex life. so i think its just puberty

Only time will tell. It will depend what your most attracted to. Try going out on a date and see if it does anything for you. If your gay it's ok. Now in our lifestyle it's excepted.

ummm well i can't reallie tell u for sure since im a gurl so iunno if guys maybe go threw dat during puberty but from my perspective i think there is a achance u may be gay....u just need to look inside and figure some things out...maybe its just a phase...but w.e it is dont be afraid to be who u are!

Just think Girls,Girls.lol.no I'm series Girls.

I really don't think that a fantasy is enough to tell if you are gay or not. Assuming you haven't had sex with either (man or woman), then you don't REALLY know what you prefer. It's no different than straight people who have fantasies about threesomes. Most try it, and end up finding out that they are disgusted by it. Perhaps down the road, if you keep having these fantasies, you will try it and end up not liking it. That's fine, too. However, I really don't think you can base whether you're gay or not off a fantasy.

alot of boys these days disguise themselves as girls....long hair...girlish body....girlish clothing...some even talk like girl...dont worry..you're just having fantasies about girls disguise as boys.

ummmmmmm i dunno probly puberty go look at cute girls lol if that doesnt help well mabey ur gay

It's just puberty. Keep it to yourself, and don't worry about.

The reason I say keep it to yourself is you'll catch a lot of crap if you tell any one. It's normal, it will pass. I had some strange fantasies myself at your age.

You're growing and that is what happens at that age,it's perfectly normal the way you feel at this moment.Having fantasies doesn't mean that is what you really want,you can have weird,wild or yucky fantasies,but....that's it.You know....just enjoy and relax.

It's a fact that during our teen age years everyone, regardless if they would actually admit it or not (and most of them don't) have sexual fantasies or curiosities about both sexes. I am not ashamed to admit that I learned how to kiss from my best friend (at the time) Brian. I have also had "experiences" back in my 20's as well but these were also experimental in nature. It is totally natural for you to have these fantasies, it is up to you as to what you want to do with them but regardless of what anyone else tells you, you be true to yourself. I wish you the best!

maybe ur bi
best if both worlds lolo

It's fine. If you don't choose to be gay then you are not. You are just starting to expirence new feelings. It is normal for a boy your age to be like that for a while. You are just curious and your sex drive is on the fritz. Don't worry about it. It will die out. Oh, and start start talking to girls more and you will have sexual fantises about girls instead of guys.

At your age, it's unfair to stick a label on yourself. You can explore ideas about yourself without a label. Don't buy into the stereotypes and assumptions about those labels either.

Give yourself permission to look at and deal with your feelings, but be careful how you act on them, esp when it comes to sexual things, ANY sexual things, not just homosexual things.

You have no reason to trust me except that I'm a lot older than you but I'm asking that you take my word for it: Right now everything is over your head. Completely. If you go out and act on your feelings "just to see" what works for you or what it's really like to do this or that, you will be more confused than ever, you could be used by someone who doesn't care about you, and you will regret it just all the way around. You aren't emotionally capable of handling sexual activity yet.

It's difficult I know. But maybe you can get some relief in knowing that you don't have to "BE" anything but yourself and you might never find a label to perfectly suit you. In fact, I hope not...you will be more interesting that way, and confident too.

It also gets me thinking that at your age, you are just coming out of the stage in development where girls are icky and boys want to be with other boys, for fun. But then the hormones kick in and maybe girls are still icky so you paste your sexual feelings onto the people who are most important to you, your guy friends.

Another thing to remember is that if these fantasies are actual night dreams...sleeping dreams...your brain has all kinds of fun when you are sleeping, most of the time it's just the way we work things out unconsciously, like self-therapy. The people and things you dream about are not meant to be interpreted LITERALLY. They are symbolic. One boy you know may represent all guys in your life, your dad, a teacher, anyone that is male, or any person like the guy you dream about. And the sex usually just represents a connection of some sort, getting more honest, building trust, being a better friend to that person...not literally having sex with them but taking the relationship to another level.

is it anybody in particular? if it is then you might want to look into this person a little more, but if it just some random guy in your dream, then its natural,

it also could be telling you that you need to explore you sexual side a little bit more( you don't know enough about yourself yet)

if all else fails, then you are considered BI-CURIOUS(NOT bisexual or gay)
1.bi-curious means that you don't know what u want yet

Dude not a big deal a lot of dudes do this. somtimes it is just curiosity about other dudes but then a cute chicky rolls by and there you are. your only 13 give your self some time to deal with life and your fantasies and enjoy

curtdud e

watch male porn, if you get a woody, then you may be gay!

I guess that is more an answer only you can make. I do not know if you are gay or not, but I never had any inclination towards guys. Perhaps you are wondering what it is like, the only way you are going to get the answer you want is to look inside yourself and figure it out.

Maybe you're just confused and unsure of what lifestyle you want when you grow up

This is just a stage in your life that ALL boys go through,and those that say they don't just don't want to admit it,because they are afraid of what the other guys will say,this is perfectly normal,at your age guys just naturally are curious about other guys,(size-looks-getting pubic hair-ejaculating - all the other puberty wonders and what other guys are doing) this is all normal,don't worry about it,this stage will pass in time,there are guys who masturbate with each other until their later teens or so,and they turn out having happy married ,and have children,welcome to the beginning of your turning into a man years

no just normal for a fruitcake





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