My boyfriend can get/stay hard? He gets really pissed off (not at me) and I end !
Question: Lately when we try to have sex I get all revved up and he does... but then he either will lose his erection really fast or not get hard at all.
I asked him if it was me, if he was bored or if I was doing something wrong but he said it wasn't. He gets really upset when it happens cause he says that he can't believe he is laying in bed next to someone with this hot a body and he just can't get his equipment to work. He says he wants me so bad, that he thinks maybe he wants me too much... could that actually be a problem?
We try for awhile to get him 'up', trying hand jobs, dry humping and oral... nothing works. We haven't been together too long (3 months) and have only been having regular sex every couple days for a month and we are still trying new stuff so I don't think thats it and he tells me I'm a firecracker in bed.
Also, I know people are going to harp on this, I'm 22 and he is 40, could this be influencing it? I just want sex with my man again! Advice?
Answers: Lately when we try to have sex I get all revved up and he does... but then he either will lose his erection really fast or not get hard at all.
I asked him if it was me, if he was bored or if I was doing something wrong but he said it wasn't. He gets really upset when it happens cause he says that he can't believe he is laying in bed next to someone with this hot a body and he just can't get his equipment to work. He says he wants me so bad, that he thinks maybe he wants me too much... could that actually be a problem?
We try for awhile to get him 'up', trying hand jobs, dry humping and oral... nothing works. We haven't been together too long (3 months) and have only been having regular sex every couple days for a month and we are still trying new stuff so I don't think thats it and he tells me I'm a firecracker in bed.
Also, I know people are going to harp on this, I'm 22 and he is 40, could this be influencing it? I just want sex with my man again! Advice?
There are many resons why men of all ages can't perform. And your boyfriend has his fare share of some of them. I am afraid you will both have to be patient with each other until he is ready to resume his normal sexual behaviour.
Just go to bed and cuddle in the mean time and don't make it an important topic of your conversation because that could make matters worse.
Viagra...Cialis....Levitra. Ask him to get evaluated by a GP or urologist if the desire's there but performance is lacking.
Okay, lots of health problems can cause erectile trouble. Find out how his overall health is, including blood pressure, cholesterol and any other heart related issues. Smoking, stress, and not getting enough sleep can cause problems with this. Oh, and drinking too much alcohol :)
He's too young to be having problems with this, that are related to age, anyway.
It could be he's nervous, or he could have health problems.
Some heart problems can cause this, and some medications can cause this. Is he on any?
Either way, he should ask a doc.
I'm having the *exact* same problem at the moment. Words and all lol. I dont know how age would influence but Im 19 and my bf is 27. I think it is either erectile dysfunction or just pyschological.
Sorry I cant help
Its called Viagra.... he's an old fart..... he needs some help
might sound cliche but its normally stress that causes this and also could be his age catching up with him the only thing i can recommend is more foreplay and less focus on penetration also get sum viagra for the man! good luck :)
sseee a doctor
it probably is because he's stressed and he only gets 2 to 3 hours of sleep. see a doctor
My ex had this problem he might need his prostate checked
but you can use stay hard creams or gels the best one I used was a wipe from pricillas and it was called Max Control
get him some climax control go to wall greens
You need your two best friends, Viagra and a C ock Ring
help him to sleep lots more at night, eat healthily, help him with things that stress him out (without sounding like he NEEDS the help ;)) get him to take any necessary vitamin supplements and drink herbal tea, it's a great stress buster.
my bf had this same problem when we first did it the first couple of times, he must have been soooo nervous! he even said the same thing he said to you, and yes, it IS because you are very attractive, hes so overwhelmed by this situation that hes stressing out but doesnt realise it as he is also horny and takes the stress as pure excitement.