We are trying to conceive but my boyfriend has trouble ejaculating when we have !
Question: If anyone can suggest any techiques that may help I would love to hear them. Also does anyone know of any supplements or natural treatments that may be helpful. This may be a stress or age related (he is 40). I would love to hear a male perspective on this. Thanks.
Answers: If anyone can suggest any techiques that may help I would love to hear them. Also does anyone know of any supplements or natural treatments that may be helpful. This may be a stress or age related (he is 40). I would love to hear a male perspective on this. Thanks.
Psychological causes of delayed ejaculation might include numerous factors that prevent a man from achieving orgasm during sexual intercourse. One cause could be watching pornography to the extent that one becomes dependent on visual stimulation. The absence of these vivid and explicit images during regular intercourse could make ejaculation difficult or impossible.
Physical causes of delayed ejaculation may imply some diseases and conditions which affect a man's ability to orgasm.. These include many neurological (for example stroke or damage to the back or spinal cord) and endocrine diseases (diabetes), prostate problems, some allergies and high blood pressure. As well difficulty in achieving orgasm can result from pelvic surgery that involved trauma to pelvic nerves which are responsible for orgasm. Some men report a lack of sensation in the nerves of the glans penis, which may or may not be related to external factors, including a history of circumcision.
Delayed ejaculation might be a side effect of some medications, usually of some antidepressants. Another reason for delayed ejaculation is excessive use of alcohol. In this case physical and psychological causes might co-exist. Alcohol addiction often implies psychological disorders which cause a man to become nervous and jealous without any reason.
If the disorder is not so severe and a man can ejaculate through some form of stimulation, he should apply to a sex therapist specializing in this area. This is very important in cases when a man can ejaculate through any form of stimulation but intercourse. Usually treatment for this disorder includes both partners.
Therapy usually involves homework assignments and exercises intended to help a man get used to orgasm through vaginal intercourse i.e through the way he is not accustomed to. Commonly the couple is advised to go through three stages. At the first stage a man masturbates in the presence of his partner. Sometimes this is not an easy matter as a man might be used to orgasm alone. After a man learns to ejaculate in the presence of his partner, the couple gets to another stage where the man's hand is replaced with the hand of his partner. Step by step a man learns to ejaculate closer and closer to the vagina. In the final stage a woman inserts her partner's penis into her vagina as soon as she realizes he is about to ejaculate. Thus a man gradually learns to ejaculate inside the vagina.
The therapy described above clearly applies to a treatment of this problem within a heterosexual context. Since especially young men often are ashamed of acknowledging their problem, or anyway do not have a partner yet, some authors recommend alternatives to this start-stop technique. By training the ischiocavernosus muscle, young men can quickly train to hold an erection on their own.
For many people it has proven to be the case that overly frequent masturbation on the part of the man is the root cause of his delayed vaginal ejaculation. Ceasing masturbation for a few days is often an effective and easy way to achieve more rapid orgasm during intercourse, because doing this will stop sensitization of the nerves in the penis. Also, different positions and rates of pelvic motion on the part of the female can be instrumental in achieving simultaneous orgasm.
A man who wants to avoid ejaculation problems should concentrate on the pleasure he gets rather than worrying about when and whether his ejaculation is going to occur. The partner should also be tactful and should not put pressure on the man by asking him whether he has ejaculated or not. Instead a partner should create a relaxed atmosphere in which a man will feel free and enjoy sexual pleasure without worrying about ejaculation. And of course, open discussing of anxieties and fears contribute to better sexual relationships and normal sexual satisfaction.
I hope it helps!
He needs to pay a visit to GNC or a vitamin store and get himself some supplements that can help, and they are abundant.....I am sure he is not on any and he needs to increase his fluid(water, not soda, not coffee, not juice.....water) intake.
Orgasm is the powerful, pleasurable release of sexual arousal and tension. For adult men, orgasm is usually accompanied by ejaculation, however orgasm is possible without ejaculation and ejaculation without pleasurable orgasm. Generally speaking, men will experience different muscle contractions throughout the pelvic and genital region, as well as in other parts of the body. Their heart rate and breathing will increase. Yet while physical orgasmic response can be generalized in these ways, the actual experience of orgasm can vary dramatically from person to person and from time to time. Some people describe orgasms as euphoric or spiritual. Others enjoy feeling almost out of control during orgasm, while others dislike the feelings of vulnerability the experience can induce. This channel deals with these issues
Sometimes this problem is caused by a lack of friction to stimulate the nerves when the man's penis is in the woman's vagina.
Possibly he would be more stimulated by a different style of sex or foreplay but is anxious to reveal this to you.
Some health products like Tribulus, Zinc, Goat weed etc may help.
Less frequent covert self-masturbation would, presumably, definitely help.
Remember not to take his inability to ejaculate as a sign that he doesn't love you or find you sexually attractive. The more open and supportive you are with him the better the chance that he will overcome this problem to some degree or maybe completely.
he just needs to relax. if he can ejaculate while masturbating, then he can do so while having sex too. jut a few days of relaxation and reassurance. performance anxiety occurs in men too ! talk words of desire when he is in you. make him feel good. tell him you want to mother his kids. he will surely feel relaxed and will be able to ejaculate. all the best.
Here is the deal. When you are faced with "knocking up your wife" you can for what ever reason go like a porn star. I felt like a stud when were trying. Now I had been shooting inside of her since marriage but for some reason it is different when you are shooting for a kid. I did get over it so enjoy the ride and don't sweat it. Use this chance to try different ways. Now medicine and other issues can cause the delay. If nothing else has changed then take control. Get on top with your feet flat on the ground. It tightens up the vagina and puts you in control. Good luck and the flow will start.