Why does my boy friend lose interest in sex after a ******** ??!


Question: We usually have a deal,I do him first and then he does me.But after I finish my part of the deal,he just goes to sleep or says that he is not in the mood........... why is this ??? Its soo unfair


Answers: We usually have a deal,I do him first and then he does me.But after I finish my part of the deal,he just goes to sleep or says that he is not in the mood........... why is this ??? Its soo unfair

I know it's unfair, but it's just the way we're created. After climax I also feel incredibly relaxed and can easily fall asleep if laying down within a minute or two. Also, I lose most sexual desires afterwards.

It's called the refractory period; you can read more about it here:
http://www.answers.com/topic/refractory-...

Let him do you first-he's satisfied and you get left out.Men always go to sleep after they ejaculate.

Oh you need to change that deal and quick...... If he's first he should never be last. Since he can't stay awake, that means you are FIRST.

do it at the same time? after ur finished u lose all interest...

Sorry to break it to you, but thats fairly normal. The rush of hormones during an orgasm quickly decline making him relaxed and sleepy. On the other hand, girls are more likely to feel more energized after an orgasm.

The best thing to do is just to flip your 'deal'... if he wants his... youve got to get yours first. tell him that otherwise, you'll stop helping him out until he complies.

Or... both do it at the same time... that way when youre both finished... you can both go to sleep. :)

because he is either one of those guys who can't help but go soft and no longer interested because that is the way he is genetically programmed
or
it could be that is one selfish git and wants his enjoyment and thats that.
I hope its the first.

he is selfish. try reversing rolls let him go first and let him then go without. after a few rejections he might be willing to talk about it and understand how you must feel.

Have you ever thought you might be an unpaid whore? Think about it sweetie. Why should he do anything for you, when you already satisfied him. You're not married. You need to talk to Dr. Laura!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh no, that's not the way it's supposed to work.

I tell my husband *I* go first because it's well known and documented it takes women a lot longer to "finish" then men.

Real easy, just say I go first or you don't get any...I bet after being turned down a few times he will be more than happy to oblige.

Communicate with him, If you think it's unfair tell him it's unfair, he may have just gotten a little greedy and doesn't realise that it upsets you. Everyone gets a little greedy sometimes, they just need reminding.

Well OMG.. pretty simple really he's had his fun he's satisfied & the effort has made him tired. If he's not interested in returning the favour perhaps you need a new b/f. Sorry for you he is so selfish.

listen to the above answers .. most of them make sense ..

good luck ..

It is normal for many men to fall asleep after climaxing. Not because he is not interested but more because his body shuts down after his orgasm. It takes practise and effort to overcome this sudden bout of sleepiness. Try doing it the other way round. Let him do u first and then yr turn. better yet come together, though that may not always be possible. Takes practice and understanding from both sides to achieve that

here is the truth about men.. men are not capable of multiorgasims.. nature will not allow it.. there has to be a refactory period of at least thirty minutes before a male can have another erection.. there is a harmone in the brain that once he has ejaculation.. he will become sleepy.. it is mother nature doing her thing.. the harmone in turkey meat has the same effect on males.. that is why you may notice that after a turkey meal at holiday dinners.. most guys have to take a nap.. keep him away from turkeys and make him satisfy you first.. other wise.. you will never get satisfied.. the way to test it out is to wake him up after he goes to sleep.. give it thirty or forty minutes and then stroke him a bit and see what happens..good luck

He sounds like a keeper.

DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU A GUY CANT GET OFF MORE THAN ONCE IN 30 MINS IT'S TOTAL BS

YOUR GUY IS JUST LAZY AND SELFISH AND YOU LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT SO HE DOES!!

BE ASSERTIVE, LET HIM KNOW THE DEAL IS BOTH OR NONE IT'S ONLY FAIR AND IF HE DONT AGREE KICK HIM TO HTE KERB!!

69.

"Ladies First"

guys really just want to ejaculate
make him do you first

what a jerk





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