I want to stop masturbating I'm 14 Please Help?!


Question: I hate masturbating i've been addicted for like a 6 months and i really want to stop. I masturbate twice a day and every time after I feel very guilty . I believe it's not hurting my grades but also my social life. And every time I masturbate I get really bad luck and something bad happens to me please can somebody help.

P.S. please no bull sh** about how it's "healthy" and "normal" at my age. And that its "great" and it "relieves stress". Please that may be true for most people but not for me.


Answers: I hate masturbating i've been addicted for like a 6 months and i really want to stop. I masturbate twice a day and every time after I feel very guilty . I believe it's not hurting my grades but also my social life. And every time I masturbate I get really bad luck and something bad happens to me please can somebody help.

P.S. please no bull sh** about how it's "healthy" and "normal" at my age. And that its "great" and it "relieves stress". Please that may be true for most people but not for me.

There is no help out here to get you to stop masturbating. It is normal and any healthy guy going through puberty will have a lot of urges to masturbate.

Of course if you start having lots of sex you might find that will satisfy yoru urges enough to not feel the need to masturbate. But at 14, I am not recommending you try to achieve that one.

Best I can suggest is to reduce to once a day at a set time and enjoy it. There isn't anythign to feel guilty about; although after each time you will feel drained and want to crawl into a shell for a while. but as you recover from the orgasm, you will return to normal.

As to the bad things happening, those are really just coincidental. Sure they may seem to follow masturbation but fact is since you masturbate twice a day, any bad or good thing that happens is always going to follow masturbation. You are merely concentrating on the bad.

Anyway, short of becoming a sex maniac, I say reduce masturbation as far as possible but retain some just to keep everythign in good workign order and keep wet dreams and your urges contained.

Of cours eif you really want a sure fire way to stop masturbating, you could always cut off the offending part. However one day in the future you might regret that so again not a recommended procedure.

Your not going to stop! If nothing else it's your bad habit...Ahhh, the quilty pleasures of the world, lol.

the only way to stop anything is to just stop - set your mind to it and quit. Being addicted to a habit isn't the same as being addicted to a substance - it's like having a mental record, the arms going to keep repeating the skip unless you actually get up and do something to get the player past the scratch.

It's all mental.

OK although it's normal and everybody does it ,

but if you really want to stop then try cut back

do it twice today
once tomorrow

once the following day

once the following week

but my advice is too just accept that it's normal and should be concentration on the fact you feel guilty

self determination!!! do something better than masturbating, go out have a walk, study, play games or get yourself a girlfriend to relieve you.

just stop. geez...

1. Decide whether your masturbation is a cause for concern. Masturbation has become an obsession when it interferes with your daily routine and your relationships. If you find yourself masturbating instead of spending time on more important things on a daily basis, then it might be time to break the cycle of behavior you are in.
2. Isolate the cause. There is a reason or reasons you masturbate excessively, and you must find out why. If you concentrate on just stopping masturbation then you will just return to your addiction after a short period of success. So, why do you masturbate? It could be because you are bored, lonely, hurt, stressed, or it could be because of pains from the past. You're going to have to get yourself in a relaxed state conducive to productive thought to really find out why you turn to masturbation. What are you trying to escape? Avoid focusing on symptoms. Saying you masturbate because it feels good is not the real reason you masturbate excessively. Dig deep into your feelings. If you find this part difficult you may need therapy to help you discover feelings you are not seeing clearly right now.
3. Deal with your feelings. Dealing with feelings correctly is a skill and may be a skill you have forgotten or need to learn. Feelings are the result of thoughts. How we interpret the world and ourselves in our minds determines how we feel. We decide how we feel about things. If you masturbate because you feel bored then it is because you decided to feel bored. Nobody made you feel bored. You did.
4. Change the thought patterns that are leading to excessive masturbation. You can no longer see masturbation as a solution to your boredom or loneliness. The more you learn to enjoy your everyday life the less you will want to turn to masturbation.
5. Narrow down the times of the day that seem to be the biggest problem for you. Isolating the times of the day that you struggle the most can help you to focus your efforts better to overcome masturbation addiction. If you know you struggle most when you lay down at night then you can create a plan specific to that time of day. Maybe you need to exercise and burn some testosterone before going to bed. Exercise will also help you to be more tired and fall asleep faster. If you struggle at different times of the day or several times throughout the day then try to narrow down the times and the environment you're in when this becomes difficult.
6. Spend some time each day, perhaps in the morning, visualizing a new you. A more confident, sociable, outgoing you. It's important that you start reprogramming your brain on a daily basis. It may seem awkward at first but if you persist, you will become more comfortable with your new self-image.
7. Change your habits. You cannot overcome a masturbation addiction so long as you are spending a lot of time alone in your bedroom viewing pornography. Get out and meet people. Form healthy relationships and perhaps find another outlet for your sexual energy.
8. Have an emergency way out - When the wave of temptation comes you need to have a pre-planned emergency way out. Many people have found that snapping a rubber band on their wrist helps break the automatic thought chain that leads to masturbation. Of course you don't want to hurt yourself, just have something similar to get you mind off masturbating.

-Do not think of masturbation as evil, wicked or damaging to your health. It is not. You will not go blind or be unable to have a healthy sex life, and it does not cause bad luck.
-Do not aim NEVER to masturbate again - aim to have it as part of your life, but a small part which, while it is comforting, does not interfere with relationships with others.

Ok,you will just have to keep yourself busy.Everytime you want to do it,do some exercise,read a book,watch some tv,call a friend,go out,study.Just always be doing something else.Good luck.

Here is the truth. Masturbation is good for you, it helps to relieve stress especiall sexual anxiety. It is an important tool in helping you control your sexual urges. The guilty feeling you are experiencing is normal but just worse for you than most men. When you orgasm or climax your body releases endorphines. They are the bodies feel good drugs however, they also work on a part of the brain that makes you feel guilty for feeling so good. You will also experience this feeling after normal sex it will happen everytime you ejaculate. Do not be so superstitious. Masturbation cannot cause bad luck. Also, masturbation is not a sin since it is not mentioned in the bible anyplace. Now what you can do is cut back and only masturbate as the urges requires. Do not stop just do it less. As you get older 18, 20 you will keep doing it less and when you get a full time partner you will give it up except for when she is not available.

Stay away from material that induce urges to masturbate. i.e porn.
Find other activities to do that occupy your time.e.g learn an instrument, which you can play in the evening ours onwards. The more idol you are, the more likely you are to masturbate.
Find yourself a girlfriend. This will make you feel more embarrassed when you do it, plus she can help you relieve your sexual pressure.i.e do it for you.

tell yourself to go 7 days without doing it.. and on the 8th day, do it as much as u want.. then wait a few more days.. then try the week again.. or try giving it up for lent.. I had the same exact problem as u when i was ur age.. it sux.. :-\ any questions, email me

mitch

I know what you need to do. It works for me. Just do not look or think about anything sexual. No sexual things, no urges. Simple as that.

Get a girlfriend!

keep yourself busy by playing sports or other activities.The only bad thing that might happen is if you get caught b yo mama !

I'm 34 and I'm still jerking the mule

yo dude,

no bull, jackin' is awesome fun.

me thinks u r doin otherthings while jackin' that makin' u feel quilty........

........ just lie on ya bed and pump it with nothing else, just u and ya di.ck, when ya really need to c.um. if that doesn't make ya day, nothin' will!!!!

dude, u won't be able to stop, but ya can stop lookin at po.rn and the like that is probably makin' ya feel quilt,
marcus

if you have been told its unhealthy or dirty or whatever then you will associate it with anything that goes wrong afterwards but lets face it ....if you are doing it twice a day every day....the odds are that something will go wrong some day some time and you are putting two and two together and coming up with 5.in other words nothing you do as to regards masterbating is causing something else to happen.they arent related.sure if your grades are failing cut back on the masterbating but its probably not that thats causing you to fail but more likely all the guilty thoughts going on in your head taking your mind of your work.stop if you want but not because of bad luck or unhealthy but just cos you arent ready for those feelings rght now.puberty stinks.its a confusing time for both boys and girls.go out with your mates and chill a little





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