Do you think that being bi or gay is a sin? why is being BI or GAY so wrong?!


Question: I am just wondering what everyone thinks about being bi or gay.. I discovered just few months ago that im bi myself and being catholic says its a total sin and I am going to hell. im married with two kids and this guy my first and only man i have sex is also married with kids. im 36 hes 34 but after two months we stop seing each other knowing that our wives will find out and we will be outcast by our religion. i missed him but i kind of freak out knowing the ugly situation we are in. BUT God LOVES ALL HIS CHILDREN NO MATTER WHAT!!!


Answers: I am just wondering what everyone thinks about being bi or gay.. I discovered just few months ago that im bi myself and being catholic says its a total sin and I am going to hell. im married with two kids and this guy my first and only man i have sex is also married with kids. im 36 hes 34 but after two months we stop seing each other knowing that our wives will find out and we will be outcast by our religion. i missed him but i kind of freak out knowing the ugly situation we are in. BUT God LOVES ALL HIS CHILDREN NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Well according to the bible (which is poorly traslated, and has been translated many times, even many experts believe that it is totally correct) it is a sin. But is it wrong? NO. Sexuality of any sorts is just a variation. Your sexual orientation (not preference) is predetermined, although there are people out there that "choose" to be gay/bi. Homosexuality has been around since the begining of history (meaning since documentation -writings, drawing, etc). It aslo occurs in all cultures, nations and religions. It also happens in all specicies of animal and humans.
Dont listen to the people whos says its nasty or gross, that is their opinion, just like some homosexuals may think being wtih the opposite sex is nasty.
The argument on AIDS, just because you are gay doesnt mean you have or will be inflected with AIDS.. This is an old, stupid myth.

Why ask this? you know there are gonna be haters answering it and theyre all gonna give thumbs down or report answerers coz they disagree with their answer........

How many times are you going to post this same question? If you are telling the truth then you know it's more about your infidelity to your wife than it is about your sexual orientation..

Quit asking the same question....

I'd be more concerned with the adultery involved. Being gay or bi is an expression of yourself, and in my opinion completely natural. Being adulterous is wrong, and puts innocent people, namely your wives and children, at risk of being hurt.

Your right God loves all of his children, that does not mean he loves the things that they do. Homosexuality is an abomination to the lord, one of the few things in the bible not just called a sin. god created sex for procreation, not for casual unproductive meaninglessness between members of the same sex.. It is unatural and it is against the Lord no matter how much it may feel rite it is wrong.

well, i live with someone who is totally against it and i can't stand it when she is like that. i'm fine with it. i think i have bi tendencies anyway.
i left the church because it was against homosexuality amongst other things.
why be a part of a religion that doesn't allow you to be yourself?

to answer you question: it's a sin but it's not wrong.

If your judging by the Bible then yes it is a sin. God does love all his children, but he has set rules. He created man and woman to be together, if not, he would just needed to create one gender. My suggestion for you is to pray about it and do some Biblical research. See exactly what God has to say about it for yourself. Then make your own decision.

I think you did a good thing by not seeing him anymore and thinking of your wife and kids first. Most guys only think of themselves. Just pray and create a more in depth relationship with the Lord and you will know what is right.

1Corinthians 6:9-10
9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor -homosexual- offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

i can't speak for god

i do know it's important to love yourself, and love your neighbor as yourself-we all sin and fall short of the glory of god, as they say, but it sounds like u r stuck in a cycle of self-judgement and fear of rejection/condemnation

i would try to focus on my personal values, and possibly seek some emotional support, professional or otherwise, to talk about these important issues

peace be with you

i agree on the quote " God loves all of his children no matter what" And because of that he doesn't want you to sin. So that you will not go to hell. I don't have right to say whether it is a sin or not. I am just following what the bible said. If God loves all of his children... then all people supposed to go to heaven. Why does hell exist then? what i think is that God wants to be fair. He doesn't let bad people to go to heaven since they are bad. They will not let good people go to hell since they are good. Why can't both of them go to heaven? since it won't be fair. It is the same with real life.... your mom loves you and your brother because both of you are her children. But if you have been naughty/ bad and your brother is being good. Wouldn't your mom still punish you? and not punish your brother who has been a good son? or other example..if you are being a good citizen you will be happy and free. But if you commit a crime you will stuck in jail. It is the same with God. Whatever he said a sin is a sin. If you believe in God you have to follow him. But if you don't then you can do whatever you want to do. All that God want is for you to have a happy life forever even after life which is heaven. If you are doing what you are doing. Wouldn't your wife and kids be sad and disappointed? Can you live happy with their sadness and dissapointment? Everything in bible, it is not purposely to control people to do certain things in their life. But all of them has purpose which is to guide you to be a better person and guide you to happiness. Also to avoid anger, disappointment, sadness, etc which can cause tragedy that can destroy our life. I hope this help.

There is nothing wrong being bi or gay dear.
Perhaps you should not mix bronze age middle eastern goat herders fairy tales with your sex life.
Your invisible friend in the sky that was invented by those goat herders probably could not care less who you are having sex with.
Just go ahead and enjoy.....

Well i don't know wat are u wat to say exactly...i think bi mean lasbian..any how.. i will tell u wat real story is....
man is for women and woman is for man... this is how god is made us....
if some one have physically difference... mean physically not normal .... then its not a person's fault.. and it is called abnormal person...
but u are physically ok...means
if u r girl .. and physically normal like girl
if u are boy and physically normal like boy
but getting attraction with the same sex.... not opp sex..
that mean god make u normal but u made ur mind as abnormal. well u can see that u willl find that kind of person tomuch in euroupe countries.... but like i am pakistani.. u come here may be u fill find some person how attract with the same person.. and it will be a v difficult job for u.....
so.. the thing is y.. there are not much in pkistan.. or india.. or near countries... is there is some magic in this country .... noooo... suppose .. i am a child.. of 4-5 year old... i started to like an other boy of my class cause he sppeek so softly.. i will make friend ship to him... and after 2 years u will feel good for him that how good he is.. and then u will also see some ppl who get attraction to the same sex.. so.. at that age i will be feeling that i am also gay.. and this think will build up by age by age.. and when i will be older..i will be a guy... ..i will not have any attraction by women.. cause from my child i was feeling good by man ..no women... so now i am gay....so this is all mentally approach..
in my realy life.. i have a friend.. he is v.good friend.. he is friend from when we wear dyper...i don't remember i ever think bad for him.. but i m thinking.. if we have seen this gay around us from begining of child hoood .. i could become gay... but now i am not .. ... i just heard about gay when i was 17... i thaught that is just an imagination.. nothing exist like this but 1 of my friend came from usa.. and he told me yes it is possible and its common in usa...... so this is all about mentality.... if u are phycally ok... u are not gay or bi...

God made Adam and Eve

Not Adam and Steve

More than likely you are both gay and are just lying to yourselves. In the end you will just hurt your wives and kids for living a lie!
BTW- I don't hold much faith in religion, so I wouldn't worry about it!

nothing wrong with it, we all have our likes, im bi prefer men

I will preface my answer by saying I have not bothered to read any of the previous answers.

Being bi or gay is not wrong. It's the way you were created. We do not know why so don't go crazy trying to figure it out.
Just remember, you are created by God and He doesn't make mistakes. The churches were created by man and we make mistakes everyday.

My oh my, Where do I even start!

1. With all due respect to Catholics, the major problem I have with their religion is that it is only half based on what the bible actually says and the other half is completely made up by "the church".

2. No where in the bible does it say that having a homosexual orientation is a sin. NOWHERE! It does say that committing homosexual acts is a sin. But it also say that fornication (heterosexual sex outside of marraige) and adultery (sex with a person other than your spouse) is a sin. Not to mention lying, cheating and stealing (which are also sins). So homosexuality is no more a sin than anything else most heterosexuals do is a sin. Sin is sin!

3. Whenever the bible depicts people engaging in homosexual activities, they are also always described as being promiscuous, wicked, practicing idoltry, and commiting various other sins. And assuming those translations are even correct, it seems that the only time homosexuality is mentioned is when those people are actually commiting every other sin possible. It's therefore hard to know if the bible actually singles out homosexuality as a sin or if it is just suggesting that those people who were doing that were sinners.

4. Jesus never once condemned homosexuality. In fact, the only person in the new testiment (again assuming the modern translations are correct) who condemned homosexuality as a sin was the apostle Paul, a desciple of Jesus (which was nothing more than a glorified preacher). For all we know, he could have simply been homophobic himself! But Christians are supposed to follow the teachings and example of Christ himself.

5. The bible clearly states that every man is a sinner because inherited original sin from Adam and Eve. So even if you've never actually committed a sin yourself, since you inherited sin, you have a sinful nature as do all of us. So whether you are gay, straight, male, female, or whatever, you are a sinner.

6. The bible also says clearly that God sacrificed his son Jesus (our savior) to resolve us of sin and allow us to recieve the gift of everlasting life. All it takes is for us to belive that Jesus is our savior and repentence of our sins. NOWHERE IN THE BIBLE does it say that homosexuals or any sinners are doomed to hell. It says that Christ died for everyone so that "whosoever shall believith in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." John 3:16

7. I think the bigger issue is the fact that you committed adultery. Ultimately it doesn't matter whether you are gay, straight or bi, what you need to do (after praying for forgiveness) is to figure out whether or not you still love your wife. Same thing with him. If not, it's not fair for you to stay with her and lead a double life. If you do, you need to forget about him and stay in your family's lives. Don't be a homewrecker!

Being gay is not a sin or a choice. You do not choose to be gay or bi. Your sexual orientation was decided in the womb.

There is nothing wrong with it. People who condemn gays are just shallow, ill educated, ignorant idiots.

Hi, it seems you are confused and i am sorry for it is a terrible place to be at. anyway, the first thing you should do is clarifying yourself.. are you gay? if you are then you have a hard road ahead since you did not come out before marrying and that will really hurt your wife, and it may deeply affect your children. are you bi? if you are indeed bisexual, like i am, then it does not really matter to you whether you are in a relationship with a man or a woman.. so why are you having an affair?? the fact that religion portraits homosexual conduct as a sin... though Christ never said a word about it in his life and he WAS God.. is not the most important issue here, religion God and what men have done with it is besides the point when you are in a confused situation like this. the most important thing is not whether YOU miss him, or whether being gay or bi is a sin, or if YOU will become an outcast... the important thing is your family and how to best keep them from harm and you will not accomplish this by staying in the closet or getting yahoo answers. if you are a religious man, as i am a religious woman, seek answers in the right places and in God, for he made you, knows you and loves you for who you truly are.. and he will judge you for your actions and your selfishness.. and you thinking only about your self and your needs and your fears is not the best thing to do... but that is just my opinion.
love and strength

M





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