Am I worried for nothing?!
Question: I recently adopted a 13 year-old and a 14 year-old. Both are teenage boys and knew each other before the placement from middle school basketball (different schools though). They get along great... maybe too great? Constant hugging, caressing, holding hands, and I think they showered together once.... Should I say something? Do something, or just mind my business? I'm a single father, and also have a 9 year-old boy in the house and 2 older ones in the Army (nothing like this with them).
Answers: I recently adopted a 13 year-old and a 14 year-old. Both are teenage boys and knew each other before the placement from middle school basketball (different schools though). They get along great... maybe too great? Constant hugging, caressing, holding hands, and I think they showered together once.... Should I say something? Do something, or just mind my business? I'm a single father, and also have a 9 year-old boy in the house and 2 older ones in the Army (nothing like this with them).
I wouldn't really be worried. There's nothing to worry about. It's better i guess then if they were to be fighting and hitting each other all the time. If you are to bring it up to them try to do it in a casual manner. If you were to make it too serious they may get uncomfortable or embarrassed. But don't stress it too much because they aren't doing anything bad. Maybe talk to a therapist and see what they think. But you have nothing to be worried about. I hope i've helped.
yeahh i think they're.....you know
sounds like you got yourself a couple fags
There could be several reasons for these actions. First you must consider the nature of their friendship. These boys were adopted they may have a close bonding relationship because in the past they have only had each other. Also they are around the age where boys get curious they need a positive male influence in their life to show them what a normal relationship looks like. It is possible that are just experimenting which is a normal behavior among both homosexual and heterosexual boys. What you do about this is your call, the fact of the matter is if you talk down to them about their actions things will only get worse. Talk to them ask them why they took a shower together but don't come from an authoritative position. Do it in a more friendly manner. They may be confused about sex and need some direction.
its just that people in foster care for whatever reasons find someone to comfort them. i was in foster care and would have loved to have someone there, but i think you should talk to them. dont tell them anything they will be offended by, just ask them if they are doing okay and what not...
WELLLLLL, in the USA, males and females are rather homophobic. That said, you should try to keep a very open line of communication open-and not a scarry one either. They have not had the most dependable life so far and the Human animal thrives on the love factor. And there's more than just sexual love too so don't think SEX!!!! But you might have to all do some counciling-the worse thing you could do is bury your head in the sand. No-matter what your sexual orientation is, they will have their own, it's better if everyone excepts it, but as a family unit-it needs to be kept in check I think. You are not running a sex house-and if they are fooling around, more than just experimenting which many young males do-they need to be told that it's not acceptable. No judgement on them, but not acceptable as a family unit. AND you may have 2 males that have been sexually abused and have a few wires that need untangling-that is not uncommon in foster situations sorry to say.You have a tight-rope to walk -good luck!
well boys will be boys, they might be gay but at the same time i dont think they r. me and my brother use to do stuff like that, we would wrestle naked and take showers that was just b/c we was young, u should at least talk to them and probally tell them what beging gay is.