Open marriage?!
Question: What do you think of an open marriage?
Hubby and I have been married almost 15 months. He's in the army and we got married as soon as he came back from Iraq, now he's about to go back and he suggested an open marriage.
I don't think we have a problem in the bedroom, I never turn him down. For me sex isn't that big of a deal, I went without it the last time he was in Iraq and I can do it again. I think he wants this more for himself than for me.
Have you ever been in an open relationship? Did it ever work out? What were the problems you encountered?
Answers: What do you think of an open marriage?
Hubby and I have been married almost 15 months. He's in the army and we got married as soon as he came back from Iraq, now he's about to go back and he suggested an open marriage.
I don't think we have a problem in the bedroom, I never turn him down. For me sex isn't that big of a deal, I went without it the last time he was in Iraq and I can do it again. I think he wants this more for himself than for me.
Have you ever been in an open relationship? Did it ever work out? What were the problems you encountered?
wow. im an ex military guy and sorry to tell you, he already has an open relationship.
sorry.
Dont do it!! If you want to stay married, dont do it! that is just setting yourself and himself up for a divorce! Trust goes out the door, and its hard to feel like he loves you for you!!
Don't do it It isn't the best thing and it will cause jealousy and hurt feelings, but it is a good short term solution to see how you feel. My friends have had open relationships (while dating and betrothed), but all of them eventually broke up. I would only think that an open marriage would be worth it if it was for health insurance reasons, otherwise it seems like a really bad idea.yeah! hope this helps
he wants an open marriage well that means that your no longer married!!! its open meaning he can get diseases from other people and ignore you a lot more(divorce basically in my mind). Open marriage is like being a ****(slu't) your being used by multiple people and you don't mind it!!!
He might be suggesting an open marriage -- because HE'S already in one. You should make sure he's not already straying....forget an open marriage and get counseling. Most men I know afraid to even bring this up b/c their wives would go crazy just over the suggestion! I would be highly offended if my S.O. ever asked me this - he's basically asking permission to fu*k other women. I'm not okay with that, no way.
Well if you agree then he can say his sleeping around is not cheating because you agreed. It's one thing to fantasize about being a stud who goes with more than one woman but there can be the introduction of distrust that'll doom your relationship. Even if you jokingly say maybe, suspicion arises. don't believe me? He asked you . Now you're asking us! Will you be able to trust he's being true to you? In many cultures polygamy is acceptable, however, not everyone is satisfied as we can only spread ourselves so thin. I once was in bed with two women. I was encouraged to engage the other. Turned out to be a test which I failed. Need I say more...
This is bad. No, open marriages don't work. They might for a little while, just because both parties can get excited by the concept but it never lasts long. One or the other will become jealous. Oddly enough, it's usually the one who suggested the openness to begin with who first stars getting jealous. But here's the part that bothers me. I suspect he is suggesting this open marriage to assuage his own feelings of guilt. He's already cheated and he figures that if you go out and have an affair of your own it will be alright. You've got troubles coming. You need to confront him on this. But you need to decide first what your own feelings are. If he has cheated, can you live with it?
thats not a marriage. a marriage to to love nd cherish till death do you part. that is being single. dont do it.
Sorry for sounding uneducated in this topic, but what is an open marriage honestly?
It all depends on you. He wants to get laid when he wants it. How do you feel about that? Sooner or later you will find that to be unacceptable if you want your relationship to work. Most men want sex when it suits them and if it is ok with you, then let it be. I personally don't think an open relationship is healthy for any couple as sooner or later either you or him will find the other person to be better than either one of you. In other words, no commitment to your relationship will destroy it in the end.
I agree with Alex...
Sorry sweetie :-)