I have to go through hell at such a young age =(?!
Question: Well, I'm 13, 14 in March. Where should I start? Well, my parents dont like each other anymore but they still talk but they dont sleep together or anything like that. It started with my mom hating my dad. My dad, well since my mom hates him I guess he hates her back. So I found out that hes in love with another women. I read their messages on his cell phone. I know it was unappropriate to go through his stuff, but I said hey my life is hell anyway whats 1 more thing. But yes hes in love with her. I guess, thats what they are saying in the messages. Since my mom hates my dad, they dont work together anymore. So my dad has to pull everything off by himself. Which means he has barely any money. The biggest problem probably is that we have overstayed so I guess we are illegal right now. Since my parents hate each other, they dont work things out. I am smart. I am a responsible student. I have never gotten Fs, Ds or Cs at the end of the year grades 1-7. Looking to continue this year.
Answers: Well, I'm 13, 14 in March. Where should I start? Well, my parents dont like each other anymore but they still talk but they dont sleep together or anything like that. It started with my mom hating my dad. My dad, well since my mom hates him I guess he hates her back. So I found out that hes in love with another women. I read their messages on his cell phone. I know it was unappropriate to go through his stuff, but I said hey my life is hell anyway whats 1 more thing. But yes hes in love with her. I guess, thats what they are saying in the messages. Since my mom hates my dad, they dont work together anymore. So my dad has to pull everything off by himself. Which means he has barely any money. The biggest problem probably is that we have overstayed so I guess we are illegal right now. Since my parents hate each other, they dont work things out. I am smart. I am a responsible student. I have never gotten Fs, Ds or Cs at the end of the year grades 1-7. Looking to continue this year.
Well, at your age your choices are pretty much limited to those offered by your parents.
If you have overstayed, and you stay here with your dad and get caught, you will likely be deported and have trouble coming back later [if you so wish].
It is worrisome that you have not heard from your brother, as that would limit your ability to go back I guess. Maybe you can try to track him down via internet. There may be a way to find out online if the house has been sold.
Meanwhile, learn the most you can; education is what will make it so you don't have to work like a dog later in your life. If you should get a scholarship somewhere that would make it easier for you to get permission to stay.
If you do return, you will probably regain the language faster than you think. You could test this by seeing if you can chat online with someone from the home country online, or better, by using VOIP or whatever to get voice chat.
It is common for teens to assume their parents problems are their fault, even though this is almost never the case.
Counseling is a really good idea to help you keep your mental and emotional balance. Don't let it get you too depressed. www.nami.org and www.dbsalliance.org have information on their websites and also run support groups. It can be very helpful to talk with people having the same problems; you can lend each other strength, and they understand what you are facing.
I would not tell either parent what you found on your dad's phone; both likely already know or suspect what is going on, so I see nothing to be gained. Ideally you just tell them at the appropriate time that you do not want to take sides so please don't try to drag you into the fight.
typicly, the one with the troubled past comes up as the one with the beautiful sole and good life
you can always change your life for how you want it, you have to set your mind to it
Hm...it sounds like your parents REALLY don't have it together...but you sound pretty centered and I really admire that in someone your age.
Be sure to separate "you" from your parents issues. You are your own person and not an extension of them and their problems. If you need to, you could consider talking to a school counselor. I know that doesn't sound very cool (you don't have to tell your friends at school) - but I assure you the counselors are there to help YOU in whatever way they can and they may have some good ideas or suggestions for you.
I wish you the best, hang in there, keep a strong grip on your sense of self and you'll be fine.
you have to live through it. things will get better even if doesn't look like it will. we all go through thing like this at one point in life to learn for our future.
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You can get a student visa to stay in this country to get your education, on through college. Keep that in mind if you want to stay here, but also know that you would need to start the process towards citizenship as soon as you are old enough. Sounds like a rough life, but talk to your school counselor, someone you can release your frustrations to, they may be of help. Good luck!