Erection problem?!
Question: my boyfriend has trouble maintaining an erection during sex, he is fine if i give him a hand job though. its starting to become an issue. any advice?
Answers: my boyfriend has trouble maintaining an erection during sex, he is fine if i give him a hand job though. its starting to become an issue. any advice?
this is a physical issue that can be caused by many factors.
1. You need to ask him how often he masturbates and ejaculates. If he does it too much, he will have these problems. When this happens, the best thing for him to do is to go a long time without ejaculating. Try atleast 2 weeks. From then on he needs to make sure he doesnt do it that much.
2. Does he have bodyfat on him? Bodyfat carries an enzyme called aromatase that converts men's testosterone into estrogen. Estrogen (estrodiol) gives men a weak erection. That fatter a guy is, the weaker his erection is, generally.
3. If he has a poor diet, you can forget about having hard erections. Check his diet, if he is eating too much fatty or fried food, cut it out!
4. Does he get enough sleep? Men need sleep to make testosterone.
5. Does he exercise? Exercising and lifting weights will ramp up testosterone production and improve blood circulation.
6. Age plays a big factor here. If he is young, he shouldnt really have these problems on a consistant basis.
7. He may have something wrong with his hormones. Hard to explain what to do here. Most doctors dont know crap about hormones, even endocrinologists whose job is to know about hormones!
For supplements to use for his erections, tell him to get ZMA and start taking L-arginine powder
Take ZMA at night on empty stomach. Zinc helps testosterone production. He may have low zinc levels. Most guys do!
Take the l-arginine 2-3 times a day with about 1.5 - 2 grams at each intake.
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Now Foods - l - arginine powder 2.2 lb tub
Optimum Nutrition - ZMA
Maybe if he does nothing for a few days it should be ok. He may be overdoing it.
Go away for a few days and text him dirty messages. When you get back he won't be able to keep his hands off you.
yo! tell him u r all his and so there is no need to rush and that he can have it as many times as he wants and any how. so then there won't be the need to rush towards climax, thereby loosing it.
Bless you...hand jobs feel so good ! But we get used to them , then vaginal sex isn`t as good. Warm him up with some head , then have vaginal sex. Wean him off the hand jobs.
Could be an (un?)conscious fear of not being able to give you what you need. Guys who just "do it" don't have this problem.
A hand job is a different issue: It is only his climax that matters, not his and yours. That is much easier for him.
If you two drink. Get him wasted on whiskey. Seriously, that will cure it.
You can buy a penis ring from a sex shop, it's a metal ring to put around the base of the penis - it keeps blood inside the penis prolonging erection. They work and don't cost much.
Ok - well to me, because he can hold it ok when getting a hand job, it sounds like he is being distracted from the job at hand when having sex?
Are you particularly loud or quiet during sex?
Do you say things to him?
Do you go a bit wild with your movements?
Have you tried getting on top, in effect giving him a hand job with your vagina?
I don't mean to make it sound like it is your fault, but there must be something going on during sex that doesn't go on while hes getting a hand job that is deflating him.
Try taking control of the situation without doing anything too extreme - just make gradually increasing moans and groans... Keep it simple and see if it has any effect.
A frequent cause of erectile dysfunction in younger males is an atypical masturbatory style, particularly masturbating in the face down (prone) position. This is a troublesome condition called Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome, or TMS. More information about TMS and its cure is available at HealthyStrokes .com.
Use of drugs including alcohol and antidepressants can also be to blame.
Yes, one of these:-
You are unattractive and so you are getting by through masturbation
You are attractive but he is gay
He is human like you and can have off days
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, we will never understand each other
Try a 3 some with him (another girl)
Most of erection problems are just psychological,mainly lack of confidence.Some natural foods like germinated seeds,chocolates,vitamin B complex etc will give more duration.If the problem persists ,better consult a psychologist.He will give guidance.
have you tried putting a bag over your head then sticking a picture of his fantasy bird on it? it works a treat with my mrs.