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Question: im 16. i don't talk to that many guys because every time i do it feels awkward. not to sound vain, but alot of people think im pretty, but i can't get a boyfriend b/c i can't act normal around them.there has been one guy at my school who constantly is glancing at me and staring, etc. i really really like him. i am so terrible with guys, and get so nervous and weird, that on the first day of class when he sat behind me i moved seats because i got so nervous and freaked out. also, i ignore his glance every time and pretend i don't see him because i just feel so awkward with guys. i think he has given up on me because i ignore his glance and this has been happening over a year with him. i feel really really awkward if i ever like a guy and feel awkward when people find out or if they were to see me flirting. so i never tell my friends who i like.
i understand that guys may not like me because i don't talk to them... i have ZERO guy friends. how can i act more normal and stuff?
Answers: im 16. i don't talk to that many guys because every time i do it feels awkward. not to sound vain, but alot of people think im pretty, but i can't get a boyfriend b/c i can't act normal around them.there has been one guy at my school who constantly is glancing at me and staring, etc. i really really like him. i am so terrible with guys, and get so nervous and weird, that on the first day of class when he sat behind me i moved seats because i got so nervous and freaked out. also, i ignore his glance every time and pretend i don't see him because i just feel so awkward with guys. i think he has given up on me because i ignore his glance and this has been happening over a year with him. i feel really really awkward if i ever like a guy and feel awkward when people find out or if they were to see me flirting. so i never tell my friends who i like.
i understand that guys may not like me because i don't talk to them... i have ZERO guy friends. how can i act more normal and stuff?
speaking from experience...he might be just a nervous as you and nothing will ever happen unless you make it happen. I feel awkward talking to girls i dont know even if i dont have crush on them. It is just the opposite sex thing and i instantly get nervous.
just talk and be yourself its pretty simple. most guys get nervous when theyre with a girl they like so maybe he's nervous too, just talk to him.
If the guy keeps glancing at you he probably likes you and the chances are he is too nervous to approach you and this is why he only glances. I would simply talk to them (guys) as if they were just one of your female friends, with different topics when necessary, if he likes you i am pretty sure you will be at ease quickly.
gurl u need to step up and tell dat guy u like him
over come ur shyness
and maybe dey reason ur shy has to do wit ur friends.u gotta start being open wit them and tell them who u like.u remind me alot of me.i always do dat my friends dont no anyone dat i like.but only one of my friends no dat i said dis guy waz cute but i didnt lik him.dats da best i can do.but u as a 16 year should have more self esteem to talk to a guy.i no wat u goin through but wen u around a guy just act like urself.u cannot be shy and be thinking wat if he dont like me.if he dont.soo wat.............tell da guy u like him and be more open wit ur friends.annd take sum chhances.dat all i can tell u
It sounds to me like you're too worried about guys being potential boyfriends, rather than just being friends.
I understand that when you're 16, your mind starts working differently. Still, the best thing to do is take a deep breath, relax, and BE YOURSELF. Don't worry about getting a boyfriend, just be friendly. "Crawl before you walk," as they say.
By the way, one interesting trick you might try is to simply tell yourself that you're not going to have a boyfriend for the next year. Sure, you can have guy friends, but you pledge not to get yourself into a romantic relationship. Why? This helps you relax, to be yourself, and to not worry about whether or not you're making the right first impression. Do this for a year or so, and it'll be more natural for you to talk to guys in the future.
Good luck.
you don't have to flirt but try to at least give the guy a smile.. I knew a girl that was kinda like you. It was really hard to figure her out because I didn't know if she liked me or hated me or what. I know that if she gave me a smile I probably would have had the courage to start chatting with her. Anyway, also try buying some new clothes or get a new haircut or both.. it might give you more confidence.
if ur to scared to talk in person try passing a note asking if he has myspace of yahoo messanger or for his cell number so u guys can text or message on the net,maybe even writing notes back in forth will make it easier to talk in person first.
when i was younger i would write the guy letters and practice what i wanted to say then throw them away so no one can read them.or maybe just give the letter to him.
talk to ur friends or maybe just one.its good to talk about things.just make sure ur confident is someone u can trust.good luck.