How can I get over negative feelings about my circumcision?!
Question: I was circimcised as an infant and it really bothers me. What bothers me the most is the feeling of humiliation I feel knowing someone took a body part without my consent and when I was too weak to resist. Recently, I have been looking into foreskin restoration to help me get over this. My girlfriend is against it, but I will not let her dictate what I do. Sometimes I even fantasize about finding the doctor who mutilated me and beating the crap out of him or her.
Foreskin restoration is a long process, and I am not sure if it will work. I don't want to go through life thinking about this all the time. How can I get rid of all these negative feelings I have about my circumcision?
Answers: I was circimcised as an infant and it really bothers me. What bothers me the most is the feeling of humiliation I feel knowing someone took a body part without my consent and when I was too weak to resist. Recently, I have been looking into foreskin restoration to help me get over this. My girlfriend is against it, but I will not let her dictate what I do. Sometimes I even fantasize about finding the doctor who mutilated me and beating the crap out of him or her.
Foreskin restoration is a long process, and I am not sure if it will work. I don't want to go through life thinking about this all the time. How can I get rid of all these negative feelings I have about my circumcision?
I am sorry you had this done to you. Your parents undoubtedly thought at the time it was the right thing, but obviously they were mistaken. Try not to be too angry with them, as at the time you were born doctors really put a lot of pressure on parents to have it done, and only a few boys escaped with whole penises. (Luckily I was one of those few.) Doctors themselves had been duped into thinking it was necessary.
Foreskin restoration seems to work pretty well for a lot of guys. It takes a long time, and you have to be motivated, but it seems like you probably are sufficiently motivated to go through with it. It's your penis, not your girlfriend's -- she should be supportive of whatever you decide.
You seem to have a lot of issues with anger about this. Your anger is completely understandable, but it only harms you, not the circumcisionist who cut you, so it would be wise to learn how to handle it. I would strongly suggest that you seek counseling. Not to be persuaded out of your anger but to learn to deal with it in a way that will be least harmful for you.
http://www.norm.org has some good information on restoration. Good luck with whatever you decide.
PS Be sure not to continue this chain of abuse/mutilation. Let your own sons grow up WHOLE.
go eat some chocolate ...it always makes me feel better about my self!
it's normal, dude. get over it.
Same exact thing happened to me. I feel the same way. It really sucks, but I do think it looks better than an uncircumcised one. But I really want to know how it feels like to have sex with an uncircumcised penis, because I've heard it's a lot better, and I can't imagine that!
no kidding? i'm glad i was circumcized. women like it better, too.
I am not sure I would be so angry. I still have my foreskin and it is a good thing to have. You were probably circumcised in the time when it was recommended by medical associations in the US (None do now). While we now know there is no merit to the reasons boys were once circumcised, it was thought to be done in your best interest.
From what I have read, a good majority of men that have done foreskin restoration are very pleased with the results. But then again there are men that were circumcised as an adult and love that too. I think allot of this has to do with what is in your head. Restore your foreskin and see how you like it.
The negative feelings, well my best answer would be take a little comfort in the fact most American men had this done to them.
You should be vocal about this subject, half the boys born in the US are still being circumcised. Many people are under the belief that all circumcised men are glad it was done to them. I really couldn't care less about circumcision until it happens to little boys who have no say.
Find a shrink! Nothing was taken and a foreskin is not a "BODY PART"! It is a very small piece of the largest organ, namely the skin! I was circumcised at 18 and can assure you, you are much better off! Don't believe the anti circ ilk! They spread lies! Sex is 100% better circumcised! It is much cleaner and it is much healthier for both partners! I had no hesitation to circumcise my boys (1&3) when they were born! There is no downside to being circumcised, just an upside!