Penis goes soft before sex whhyyy???!
Question: im 18 years old and have been having a sexual relationship for about 3 months. When we started having sex my penis would go soft so we couldnt have sex and i really couldnt get it back up. But we got it in the end and we had great sex untill about 3 weeks ago when it started happening again. we had sex but my penis went soft before sex i got it back up and we had great sex. But after it i couldnt get why it went soft out of my head and since then i have been worrying about it ALOT and when ever we go to have sex i get extreme butterflys and it takes us a few goes before we get it right. How do i overcome these anixetys is there ways in which i can keep myself hard before applying the condom????
Answers: im 18 years old and have been having a sexual relationship for about 3 months. When we started having sex my penis would go soft so we couldnt have sex and i really couldnt get it back up. But we got it in the end and we had great sex untill about 3 weeks ago when it started happening again. we had sex but my penis went soft before sex i got it back up and we had great sex. But after it i couldnt get why it went soft out of my head and since then i have been worrying about it ALOT and when ever we go to have sex i get extreme butterflys and it takes us a few goes before we get it right. How do i overcome these anixetys is there ways in which i can keep myself hard before applying the condom????
It could be a number of things.
Is there a chance you and your partner could be caught having sex by family members? That nagging thought could be inhibiting your sex drive.
Or, do you associate sex with something shameful. It's amazing the amount of people who've been caught masturbating by a parent as a child and then have problems with their adult relationships.
Do you do X, take anti-depressants or drink? Your seratonin levels can yo-yo from certain drugs and that will interfere with your erection. Depending on your tolerance level, alcohol and sex don't always mix well. Two beers could be just right and that third one can kill your erection.
Are you under a lot of stress? That can impede your libido. And the added pressure of not being able to get it up just makes you more anxiety-filled.
I could go on and on, but lastly, are you really attracted to your partner? Are they just convenient, is there something physically that turns you off? Some people don't do well with a partner where there no deeper relationship. And a friend of mine couldn't get it up for his girlfriend of 3 years because...he could see two hairs growing on her right breast and it freaked him out.
Although you're 18 and people keep saying you should be willing to have sex with just about anything, just about anywhere, that's a myth.
Try to make sure you're in a setting where you won't be interrupted, try to clear your mind of anything but the amazing experience you're about to have. Try to remember - sex is supposed to be fun.
If you still can't get it up, be a gentleman and make sure she climaxes. It shows that you care and will keep her from being angry and frustrated, which you do not need right now.
If your problem lasts longer than six to nine months, see a doctor who specializes in sexual disfunction.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you, it just sounds like the typical experience of someone starting off in sex, who seems to have put a lot of pressure on himself.
Since 25-40% of all males go through erection problems, it's not something you should make yourself crazy over.
Try a new partner , new positions, gte your partner to try a new partner, try not to have sex for a month and then see what happens. These are all serious suggestions, the results of all of these may bring it back.
Sexual chemistry is important.
Perhaps you need more foreplay from your partner? Are you nipples sensitive? If so, incorporate that stimulation.
Feelings of gentle caressing love are incentives.
try viper poison... no jokes...
u are panic , every man cant force himself to get an erection , the erection comes naturally , dun give pressure on urself , u are fine , too young for ED , maybe ur girlfriend is uglier than missy elliot? if ur girlfriend us jessica alba , u will melt like ice.