I hate the way i look compared to the other guys!?!


Question: Another complaint fom me. I Hate my image, i hve absolutely no self esteem and i happen to think that i am the defenition of ugly.
I know i have heard this from a lot of my friends, but is it "ok" (if you catch my drift) for a guy to hate himself in the same way as a girl can? And how do i fix the way i feel?


Answers: Another complaint fom me. I Hate my image, i hve absolutely no self esteem and i happen to think that i am the defenition of ugly.
I know i have heard this from a lot of my friends, but is it "ok" (if you catch my drift) for a guy to hate himself in the same way as a girl can? And how do i fix the way i feel?

It is ok to feel this way, most guys have lower self esteem than girls but they are afraid to show it. So it just shows how mature you are by sharing these feelings with yahoo. I can't make you like you image any better, but remembre that looks mean very little- it matters what kind of person you are and from this post you seem very sensitive and mature and i think that this is great. I hope you feel better about your self soon!

Ok heres the thing. I had the same problem....are you shy? Well I was and thought I was this ugly ugly person. All you have to do is get a GF, I garentee you even if it doesnt workout youll feel good about yourself. I did the same strategy, I needed a GF to make me feel good about my image/self. In hih school I had about 20-25 GFs and after HS my confidence was sooo high I really didnt give a shiznit what ppl thought of me, or how I looked NO GUY (well there are SOME exceptions) is ugly to a girl, its all about personality, be yourself.

Self-Esteem and Anxiety Disorders
How you think about yourself defines your self-esteem. How you see yourself defines your self-esteem. If you are hard on yourself when you make a mistake, if you don't like what you see in the mirror, if you feel like a failure every time your anxiety relapses, chances are you have low self-esteem. You probably don't like yourself all that well. If you don't like yourself, it may be difficult to believe that recovery from your anxiety disorder is possible.

Low self-esteem and anxiety may become a vicious cycle. Perhaps low self-esteem is one cause of your disorder. Perhaps years of battling your disorder have led to low self-esteem. It really doesn't matter which came first because, either way, the two are feeding on each other now. Eliminating one problem won't necessarily eliminate the other, but working on both will bring you further along the road to recovery.

Low self-esteem doesn't change to high self-esteem over night. However, the acts of being good to yourself and compassionate towards yourself will help immensely. These are acts which you may practice every day by being conscious of how you "speak" to yourself. If you have low self-esteem, there's a good chance that you are much harder on yourself than you are on other people.

Would you get angry with someone else for having an anxiety relapse? Then why get angry with yourself? Think of the words you use to comfort your friends when they relapse and give yourself the same treatment. This is a technique you may try whenever you are having critical thoughts towards yourself. You might not believe those comforting words at first, but time and practice will make a difference.

The main problem with changing low self-esteem is recognition of the problem in the first place. You might not notice that you are being critical of yourself. You might not see the connection between your self-criticism and your anxiety. Take some time to notice how you talk to yourself. You might carry a small notebook with you to write down some of these thoughts. In the same notebook, write kind, comforting words you may say to yourself when you start to beat yourself up.

I have been suffering from Self-Esteem and Anxiety Disorders since I was a child. You better consult with your doctor,it will get worse with the years because next step will be "Depression" and there is not cure [yet] for mental depression.
Depression is like a cancer,slowly will eat you up.DEPRESSION is the leading cause of disability worldwide, according to the World Health Organization. It costs more in treatment and lost productivity than anything but heart disease.We need a network of depression centers, much like the cancer centers.

Please consult with your doctor ASP,before is too late.

show us ur pix n let us judge ?????
i bet ur hot !
muah***

yes you can. try a makeover. dye your hair, new style etc. if you put a pic up ill make some suggestions.

IT'S NEVER OKAY TO HATE YOURSELF!

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I think you need therapy...so get some and don't waste our time trying to make you feel good, when you can't, or don't want to.

hey i also hate my self image. i am tall and lanky, 6"2. i also hate my nose, and i am trying to convice my mom to let me get a nosejob. so i guess guys can have problems similar to a girl haha

Start exercising, running, eating well, and dressing well. That will most certainly help your mood, and how you feel about yourself.

Don't be too concerned what others think! I know thats a typical response, but if you take care of yourself, and others will notice, and find that attractive!

build yourself as a person, and not what's on the outside.
it's normal for anyone to feel the way you do. you might lack attention.
some people, if they don't get any attention, instinctively feel not worthy and mostly they think it's their outward appearance.
don't feel that way, hun! everyone just looks the way they do!
if you wanna feel better, you might wanna go see someone or, like i said before, built yourself, grow stronger.
try new things, be adventurous!
*gives hug* i hope you feel better, you sound down!
good luck

If your down right ugly like your face is messed up you may think about getting proactiv or something to clear your face up. Wash your face daily if you don't want to buy a product. If you have a few zits I wouldn't worry, we all get zits. Just wash your face good. If your unhappy about your body, work out, or wear long sleeved clothes. Its best to work out though, it's healthy. And if you don't like the way you are, it doesn't mean other people don't like the way you are. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Listen to me. I am a female and for years I hated the way I looked. I was taller then everyone else, developed faster and felt like I was completely in the wrong place. But what I have learned is that it doesn't matter how you look, some people are going to think you are hot and others are going to think you are ugly. Just look at Julia Roberts. Some people say she is the most beautiful woman on earth and others say she is a horse face.

Don't worry about your image. Take care of your skin and personal hygene. Make sure that your clothes are clean. Do simple things like this. If you hate your hair try a different cut. If you think you are fat work out. You have to try to help yourself if you want to look better.

Take care of yourself and try to be happy. In time cofidence will follow. However, it takes time and practice. Don't like the media or insecure, jealous people drag you down.

Of course its ok for a guy to 'hate himself' admittedly its more common in women but i think thats because there's a fair bit more pressure on women to look good. There's no fix to make you feel better, it's gradual, you just need to accept the way you are... accept yourself for yourself, you only see your flaws because thats what you're looking for. Stare into a mirror, what colour are your eyes? they're unique. What colour is your hair? pick out your favourite bits and soon the other parts just blend in, they dont even matter anymore. It really is gradual though, just try to do more things that make you feel happy, dance when no one is around and sing when no one can hear. I hope this helped =]

Everyone is like that, which guy doesn't look at his own body and compares himself to others? Go see a counsellor to boost your self-esteem.

I bet you are as average as the next guy, with sound feelings.
be lucky

That isn't exclusive to girls, anyone can have low self-esteem, especially when it's related to how you look.

And what could possibly make you "hate" the way you look? Has anyone ever actually told you you're "the definition of ugly"?
You must have something you like about your looks.

What I can suggest is, try something new, like a new haircut that you think is cool or new clothes.

Also, don't try having a perfect image to please others, please yourself first. Don't care about others opinions about your hair or something if you just like the way it is.

Try going to the gym and exercising, we guys feel better as we get stronger.

Chin up, people will actually find you more interesting if you believe in yourself. It just shows, really.

That's all I can say for now.

GET YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND QUIT LISTENING TO OTHERS THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS OF THEY ARE SAYING THIS TO YOU LOOKS AREN'T EVERYTHING IT'S WHAT IS ION YOU HEART THAT MAKES YOU A BEAUTIFUL PERSON PEOPLE WILL SEE THIS IT WILL ALL COME OUT IN THE WASH SHOW ME A PIC LETS SEE???????????

of course it's "ok" for you to feel that way, you would be surprised at how many guys do. They are just ashamed of their emotions and keep them a secret. that's whats really unhealthy.
perhaps you could try therapy, exercise, watching your diet, buying some new clothes, a new haircut, all these things could help you feel better and gain confidence. also try and find something you do really well and force yourself to go out of your comfort zone that will help immensely. but also know that it will be a long and difficult process. good luck!

I was like you when I was young, with the low self-esteem.
I woke up one day, and told myself. Well, pi$$ on them. I am
going to have a normal life, like everyone else. I do not have
to look, like them. If they don't like my looks, then just stay
"out of my face."
Those who don't know you, will always look the other way.
Yet. You will find that someone, "that see's you." Through it all.
I remember someone who used to tease me in school.
One day he was in the restroom, washing his face.
I went right up to him, and said. The ugly part don't wash off.
He never, ever, teased me again. <}:-})

you know every one has self esteem problems even if they want to share it or not.
the truth is theres nothing you can do about your self apperance and at the end of the day your just you.
you just have to learn to love your self.

i use to HATE myself i though i was fat and ugly but then i was like hey i was born like this, this is the way i am, and my "real" friends/family love me for the way i am.

as soon as i got my confidence up i seemed to be more outgoing and fun


just dont let other peoples words bring you down because if they are saying something mean its probably just because they are insecure and need to bring other people down to make themselfs feel better

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I don't know why you think you are ugly and hate yourself for it. I think you are hot ! Don't be so hard on yourself. You got a lot going on.

yea, you are well ugly.
sorry man, gotta tell it like it is.
hey, there's plenty of ugly girls out there too, for you





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